What is rejection, really?

Rejection at its most basic level is the antithesis of belief. The reaction you have when you are told ‘no’ is in direct relation to your attitudes and feelings about yourself, your product, your lifestyle, looks, whatever.

If you’re having problems dealing with rejection, if the fear of rejection is overwhelming you, it’s because of one thing: you attach more validity to another person’s opinion than your own. Deep down, you think they are ‘right’, and you, somehow, are ‘wrong’. You question your own opinion of yourself, your ‘mental projection’.

You’re terribly afraid that people are going to find out you’re a fraud. That you’re not really who or what you say you are. That you don’t know what you’re talking about, or what you’re doing.

You don’t believe, at your core, in your own worth.

When you can build belief in yourself to strong enough level, you won’t have to ‘learn how to handle’ rejection — because it simply won’t exist. When you get to that stage, being told ‘no’ won’t trigger feelings of rejection, because by then you won’t require the opinions of others to validate your own beliefs.This isn’t to say that being told no won’t affect you in some way. It will. But if the ‘no’ answer doesn’t shake your sense of who you are and what you stand for, then the result of a no will be something much easier to handle, like disappointment, not devastation.