Validating your beliefs

An essential difference between successful and unsuccessful people is that the latter most often have to have their belief in themselves validated by outside sources: friends, neighbors, business associates. This, friends, is a killer.

You have to develop the resources inside yourself to the level that enables you to not need outside validation to know that you or your ideas have value. How?

Affirmations are NOT the answer

As I alluded to in an earlier post, positive affirmations probably won’t get you the result that you want, at least as fast as you want. Why? Because of your internal beliefs and the way it filters your day-to-day events, your mind will ‘poo-poo’ affirmations. It’s reaction will be, “yeah…right”. That is, until it reaches a stage that it begins to ask, “why?” in reaction to your affirmations. Then it will begin to look for reasons that support what you’re telling it, and it eventually will find them. But why not take a shortcut?

Questions ARE the answer

You have to begin to understand how your mind works in order to change your beliefs effectively. Your mind is always evaluating. Continually. It asks, “what does this mean and how should I react?” Learn to use questions to change what you focus on, what you believe. More on this soon.