Did you know that it’s estimated that almost 20 million people in the United States are ‘clinically’ depressed? And that many people that could be considered as depressed don’t know it? They don’t know that what they’re feeling isn’t normal, that they don’t have to feel this way. Clinical depression means depression that isn’t caused by a recent trauma of some kind. Severity ranges from mild to major, depending on the symptoms and the impact on the sufferer’s daily lifestyle.
What I’ve got they used to call the blues
Nothing is really wrong
Feeling like I don’t belong
Hangin’ around
Nothin’ to do but frown
Rainy days and Mondays always get me down— Rainy Days and Mondays, The Carpenters
Depression isn’t the ‘Monday morning blues’, or having a ‘down day’. Clinical depression, whether mild or major, is a pervasive, potentially serious illness. It can have profound health consequences as well as having a great impact on day-to-day living. Severe, major depression can completely immobilize a person, even causing a complete withdrawal from daily living–or a withdrawal from actual living, in the case of suicides.
Consequences of depression can include:
- increased risk of suicide
- an increase in the production of stress hormones like cortisol
- decrease production of sex hormones and reduce sex drive
- can cause permanent memory damage if untreated
- increased risk of stroke, asthma, heart disease, cancer, pneumonia
- an elevated risk of returning to addictive behaviors such as smoking, drug use, or drinking
- aggravated feelings of anger and hostility
So, if depression isn’t just ‘the blues’, what is it? How can a person recognize that they may be suffering from actual depression so he or she can take steps to deal with it?
What depression is and isn’t
The following symptoms come from the psychiatric ‘bible’: the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), the book that mental health professionals consult to diagnose mental conditions.
A mild disclaimer: I am not, nor have I ever been, a psychiatrist, psychologist, mental health practitioner, or even a health practitioner. The information contained in the following articles is based solely on my own research of online and offline materials, additionally on personal experience with major depression. If, after having thoughtfully read this post, you feel you may be suffering from major or clinical depression, I urge you to seek competent help from a health practitioner.
Severe depression can be characterized by the experience of 5 of the following 9 symptoms for a period longer than two weeks, and that you haven’t experienced a major traumatic event in the last 18 months, such as the death of a loved one. In other words, it’s not just ‘feeling down for a couple of days’, and it isn’t completely caused by recent emotional trauma. In addition, in order to be classified ‘officially’ as depression, at least one of the first two conditions must be present. If at least one of those conditions isn’t present, it’s not likely that you’re suffering from depression–but there might be something else going on. That’s why it’s important to not try to deal with depression by yourself. There may be an underlying medical cause for some of the symptoms that needs to be addressed.
9 Symptoms of depression
- deep sadness or a feeling of emptiness or apathy nearly every day for the past 2 weeks or more
- diminished interest or pleasure in all or nearly all activities for the past 2 weeks or more
- a decrease or an increase in appetite, causing you to lose or gain more than 5% of your body weight
- sleep differences of more than 40 minutes from your norm, either more or less
- agitated or irritated with yourself or others, or physically moving slower than you usually do
- extreme fatigue or loss of energy
- feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate guilt, or a feeling that you’re just not useful any more
- a diminished ability to think or concentrate, or having trouble making everyday decisions. A decrease in your ability to make sound decisions
- recurrent thoughts of death, or having seriously contemplated hurting someone else. Serious contemplation of or attempting suicide.
NOTICE: please — if you are currently having serious thoughts or plans for suicide, please, please, get in touch with a health practitioner. You can call 1-800-273-TALK (8255), the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a 24-hour, toll-free suicide prevention service available to anyone in suicidal crisis.
In the next article, we’ll explore those symptoms in a little more detail. In later articles, we’ll discover some of the causes for depression, and some of the things that can be done to lessen or eliminate depression.
This article is the first in a series about depression: how it can affect you, ways you can recognize it, and some things you can do about it.
I know I have a serious problem. I have had suicidal thoughts and dreams of my death for more then 10 years. This illness has kept me from having a “normal” life and I have pushed away everyone who gets close to me. I have a good career but worry that I may soon lose that too due to my numbness and loss of memory. I know I need to get professional help but dont exactly know where to start. How to you tell someone about your depression and how do i know they will even take me seriously. I couldn’t bear the ridicule
I’ve never had anybody to talk to about my what I think is depression. I’m a 28 year old female and I have two beautiful kids and its so hard with them .I get so frustrated for the most will things. Although I did have a really bad life as a child and I lost my parents when I was 12 and you know I’m also shaky all the time I’m not interested in any of the things that I know I never would have giving up. I’ve also lost interest in my boyfriend that I’ve been with for over a year. I’m always sad and I always feel like I’m alone even when im not. I mean I can be in a full room of people and I will literally feel like I’m all by my self. My boyfriend thinks I’m just always PMS n . but its soooo much more than that. He thinks I’m thinking or hideing something or that I don’t love him. But I love him so much . but I want to marry him. I can’t live my life the way I want and need too. Because I find myself crying all the to.e and I have no idea why. I wish I can do something to just be normal again. I also have the crazy mood swings and loss of appetite. But I seem to be gaining weight. I have no idea I usted to be a size 00 even after my 2 kids but somehow I am now in a size 5 .I’ve gained about 35 pounds and I’m a vegetation how does that happen right. ? I seem to also hate myself and don’t know why other I’ve always loved myself and thought I was pretty but now I just bypass the mirror and cry when no one seems to be around. Because I cry all the time know my boyfriend thinks i m going out of my mind . he don’t pay attention to my feelings anymore. And now for sometime I have no want for sex and its caused a lot of problems in my relationship. I push all my friends away and I ignore my Facebook, and I feel so worthless and less of a woman. I feel like I wanna kill myself every day! I even think how I can do it not just how. How don’t seem to matter to me. Just that I do it fast and there’s no way that I will fail the first time. Although the first time was when I was 9 . I’ve been depressed that long. How do I live with myself? What stops me now ???? My kids the thought of my children living without me. !! That’s what stops me! I think about talking to someone like a professional. But I looked up on the web that a woman got her 4 Kids taken away from her for just being on meds for depression. I don’t ever want to lose my kids because I wanted help to make there lives better. That lady talked with me on Facebook she never got her kids back even though she was proven to be completely stable by the doctor. So what do I do take that chance. I don’t think so. I’ll just keep sitting on the edge of of the 53rd floor of my apts and just think about jumping but I won’t because I can’t leave my kids all alone!! But I still have a lot of problems in my life with what I think is depression but not sure because I’m afraid to see a doctor. Some people think that I’m really going crazy. They say that I’ve changed a lot, like the way I think and what I say. They say that I’ve turned very bitchy and mean plus I heated to love to cook but now you couldn’t pay me enough to do it I have no unrest in life.sometimes I throw stuff over stupid arguments with my boyfriend and I say stuff that is not at all like me.I sometimes feel and think about really bad things like how to kill people that have hurt me in my past or sometimes I wish I would get hit by a car. Or worse to end my suffering. I often wish that I would just stop breathing in my sleep as a matter of fact I pray for that every single night. A nd worst of all , I’ve stopped believing in god because I blame him For all of these terrible things in my life when I gave my life to him. I stopped going g to church and noe my boyfriend wants me to go with him but now I hate god. That’s pathetic I know its pathetic but I’ve changed in ways I hate… I blame god for everything that has happened to me .is that wrong?? Most of the time I do t want to do anything with my life I just want to sit in my bed all day and just feel sorry for myself. I think of ways to kill myself all the time . like should I hang myself, or maybe stab myself in the heart because that’s how its done on CSI Miami. I know I. Not really crazy but try telling me that and I’ll probly yell and throw stuff because I literally feel like I’m really losing a grip on reality. I also slam doors and throw rocks at my boyfriends car and I’m always paranoid like people are always looking at me and judging me even when I k know that their not.I got mor to say to you but I have no charger with me ttyu hope to hear back from somebody that understands me and can relate to what I feel because I feel sloop alone.
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Your not alone….u just put into words what I’ve been feeling for sometime now. I’m sorry u and I feel this way. Did U ever find help? Did they take u serious? Did they help u?
Praying for you Kathleen. God is the only way. Open your heart and you’ll see changes. Take care xo
I have sooo much pain I can’t perform. I’ve tried different medications. I think it’s a permanent problem for me. Not a temporary one. Every year it’s worse. I’m 47 now and I’ve got two little ones. I feel so selfish. I mess up what chances I do have with love. I don’t understand how sex means nothing to people. Intimacy followed by rejection kills me. My dad walked out the day I was born. I feel that there is something unclean or unholy about me. There are some people who are never loved. I’m one of them.
My heart go’s out for you.l lost my wife four years a go an I’m steel hearing . She gave me the best 37 years of my life. Now I want to give some one a good an happy life but I don’t know we’re to start. I will pray for you always . Ask Jesus he will help you I know he loves you an won’t let you down.
Hi there u r not alone I also feel exactly the same but my 2 kids are the reason why i want to live but I think my depression is caused by using petogen as a contraceptive I think if I withdraw I will feel better if ur on birth control it can cause hormonal changes and cause depression
I get how u feel I have the same feeling my life is a mess idk where to start my mom left me when I was 3 or 4 and well it wasn’t much of a deal but it sometimes hurts my friends don’t get me I feel like killing myself most of the time or jumping off a cliff but it wouldn’t work I am having problems with my family friends people I am close with I just lost it all I feel worthless it like nobody will ever understand me but I can see u are going through the same thing
I hate my life why me God I hate living like this I just want to kill myself..I don’t want to live no more God help me give me strength I can’t eat,sleep I can’t even focus I hate myself God help me I’m begging for help I don’t have no one to turn to or no one to talk to..I hate my life I hate myself I can’t live no more…God why me..why me I’m crying inside my heart can’t take this no more I can’t continue to live like this God help me please I’m crying out to you..HELP PLEASE. God give me the strength i feel like I’m dying I feel weak I don’t have strength I can’t take it no more God just take me away I’m dying inside my heart is pounding God help me HELP in a dark place can’t sleep or eat losing weight help me Lord help me I might take my life I can’t no more I want to be happy Lord when will the light shine on me I’m in a very dark place I can’t sleep I’m taking sleeping pills and still can’t sleep help me help me help me I’m begging you please help me
Omg, I know it’s been two years since you posted this, I was looking up information on depression for a friend and came across your post. I really, really hope after this time everything turned out ok for you. I was in tears reading this, my heart broke and I am not just saying this, there are people who care…people with hearts in this cruel, cruel world! Depression is a serious matter that society need to take serious and stop seeing it as mood swings, PMS’n, the blues or underestimating for that matter. My heart wants to believe you and your precious family are all well. I would really like to know if you were. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Please take extra care of yourself always!!! <3
Were on the same boat feeling like a lost soul with no where or no one to go to. I take long drives greaving and parying for my life to end but it doesnt, iv taken hella E and overdosed sadly it hasnt ended for me. Iv put a 9 to my head loaded and pulled the trigger but the firing pin didnt hit hard enough iv even slept with the car running and still nothing. My last option is for police to take me out thinking im going to pull a gun. Everything will end for me sooner or later and i know ill be free. Free from neglect, free from being used, free from this god for saken world that we love in. I just want everyone to be happy im gone …
You have severe depression and need to talk to your doctor. Meds helped me a lot, i used to just lie in bed all day and now i can do some daily activities so you should definitely talk to your doctor asap, they dont judge
My dear u just need it to see ur doctor they pot u on same sort of medication I am sure 100% you well fell better and Injoy from you live with your kids take my advise please please see ur doctor
I’m in a different depression people say there depressed, but I’m in the darkest layer of depression there is at least you have people that care about you on a emotional level. going in for 12 years, I’m so gone mentally, it’s an absolute and ulter miracle Im even tying these words.
It’ s normal to feel that you’ve lost a grip on life sometime, and no you should not think your crazy. A crazy person wouldn’t even think somethings wrong. But you realize that what you’re feeling is not normal. I’ve fallen into a deep depression on several occasions, I couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, had no energy, would have panic attacks in public, couldn’t hold my bowels. Like I really felt myself waisting away and truth be told, that’s what I was waiting for. Now like you I have children. I was too afraid to take myself out, but I didn’t mind waisting away naturally. I had lost 35 pounds in one mnth. When I did finally reach out for help, I was well on my way to checking out. Don’t allow yourself to feel worthless, easier said than done, but you have to hold on to what you do have left and that’s your kids. No one is gonna love them and care for them the way you do. Picture that!!! Someone mistreating your babies and you not hear to save them. Save yourself so that you can save their lives honey. Make it all about them when you cant find purpose for yourself, and in do time you’ll find purpose again. God’s not ready for you. Choose to live sweatie. We only have to do it once.
Remember…Depression is not a weakness,it means that you were strong for to long!
Having fought clinical depression for over 40 years, I know it is a miserable feeling. Your fear of being disbdlieved, mainly by non-professionals is a good point. If it can’t be seen, then it doesn’t exist., Not everyone feels this way, but many do. It is important to know that clinical depression is not your fault, regardless of what others may think. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.
Although some people seem to “grow out of it”, don’t take that chance. The longer you wait to get help, the harder it is to do so. even though you are probably pretty short on energy, it is important to “shop” for the right therapist. Just like in any relationship, some people you get along with, while others you don’t. Remember, you will be sharing some of your personal thoughts with your therapist, and trust is a must. If you can’t trust the therapist and hold things back, you are only making things worse for yourself. There are just too many causes of depression to go into all of them here, but you can’t rely on yourself to make a diagnosis, (we tend to deny things to ourselves). You can always change therapists if need be.
There are many quizzes on the net to take to determine if you are depressed. Those are basically for fun, so don’t waste your time. Many emotional illnesses have very similar symptoms, so what you get is unlikely to be your true problem.
Take a deep breath and make an appointment with a therapist. Most have websites these days and you can read the comments from other people. Its a place to start. You are not at fault, or weird or a freak. Your pain is just as bad as someone with a physical injury or disease process. A good therapist knows that and will treat you with respect. Once you get started, it will get easier, but you have to start.
I wish you the best of luck.
Rob
Try and seek counsel from ur Pastor, allow ur friends to come around u and please allow ur boyfriend to come around u. Lastly befriend ur bible the word of God says ” we should come to Christ all that are heavy ladden and he would give us Peace” God would help u out.
I understand how you feel I feel the same way
I have depression and all I think about is suicide every day. I have seen so many doctors and have been in the hospital so many times nothing seems to help me. Every time I think I will be okay my mind starts to get depressed and I start to go crazy and loose everything I work so hard for. I can’t go to work I can’t seem to get control of my emotions I start to isolate my self I stop eating I start to try and commit suicide I have failed so many times. I have had ECT I have been on so many meds nothing seems to help me. I have lost my friends no one knows how to help me. My depression is lowly but surely killing me. I wish I was dead. I can’t take the mental pain my mind is putting me through. I am so lonely as well. I am suffering. This is not living this is suffering. I ask my self and god why I am a good person but my mind is killing me. Why. It’s not fair. I understand why people commit suicide. Your mind can put you in so much mental pain you just can’t seem to go on in life. I had hope I could seek help but nothing seems to help me. I find my self in a hopeless painful state of mind all the time. I have stop eating. It’s been 20 days now. It’s a slow lonely way to commit suicide but it seems like the only way I can seem to kill my self I have lost all hope. I just hope I can RIP when I do finally stop living. I hope I can find peace in the afterlife. Words from a man that can’t seem to find peace and happiness. Believe I have tried. All I am doing is suffering mentally. I hope you can get help for your depression and be there for your children and just be happy in life and have peace of mind. I wish you could overcome your deamens. I truly understand what your going through. Mental pain is do overwhelming.
So sorry to hear that…
My dear Kathleen, I feel as though I know you, and am so deeply sorry for all the pain, you have endured. I am more than twice your age, and have lived through many horrifying events, which seem to be spiraling out of control on a daily basis.
Anyway, I know I ramble, but as miserable as this life can be, God is for sure here to stay. Man is really quite foolish, with ‘Corporate ” infringement of private citizens. When you said, you don’t go to church anymore, I can certainly understand that statement, but to say, you no longer believe in God, is not true. God is good, and perfect, but we live in, an imperfect, fallen world, and hearts are desperately wicked, mine being the most vile of all. Just take a look at C.S. Lewis’s “Mere Christianity “. We cannot say He discontinueds to exist. The Sun still sets, and rises. Hold on to the Truth
Hi kathleen
I hope you get this message although its
3 years too late .
Im a sufferer too
And ive been looking for answers , hence how ive stumbled upon your article.
You and me , it’s uncanny how similar my feelings are to yours !!!!
Ive been suffering and getting worse for over
20years now ,
I live in England , so I think , well , pretty sure that my country or the UK 🇬🇧 as its called , is terribly backward on all things mental health wise .
We dont even or at least didnt think it was such a real life destroying illness as it is , so we are behind the times and ive even had doctors say
to me when I was 19 and first started to realise I want well , “You should kick yourself up the bum and stop feeling sorry for yourself !!!!
Their are people in the world much worse off than you , your too young to be off work too , so toughen up and
Sort yourself out !!!!
Im not writing a sick note for you , get back to work !!!!.
Yes its true the above sentence was actually
Said to me when I was at my lowest point , back then , when looking back now , that seems a vision of paradise compared to my current mental state.
Im not for a second saying Im worse or better than you . Cus im not , id love to talk to you properly ,
Because most all of what youve said describes me , the rage of thinking of past people thats wronged us .
The hopelessness and no interest in anything at all , my bec becomes my home , area of were i feel safe and away from the world , my curtains remain drawn all day everyday.
I feel so terrible and cant even begin to look in a mirror, i want to die but im affraid of
upseting those who find my lifeless body , as in do i cut my wrists, then they find a horrific mess
Or hangmyself and again , my partner seeing my body in this state and never getting over the image in her mind or heart .
Ive thought of walking in front of a bus or a lorry , but again the people driving could be really damaged mentally
And spectators too .
I think all the time of what ive lost and i cant see a future , just more missery and pain .
I could honestly write so much more. But you get the picture.
Im sitting here writing this feeling hopeless but
And a big BUT I hope in the time thats past , that youve found a answer , got hope , someone helping you ,
I really really do ,
My heart whats left of it goes out to you and yours , and I just wish I could speak to you properly , because your the only article ive read
That as touched my heart and i can identify most all of what you put
Down .
Im going to give you my email anyway , although it says you shouldn’t
Because if your still here on this earth ,
Which i hope you are
And weather or not your sick or well now .
I know it can never really go away, but maybe youve found a answer to dealing with it or living with it .
Anyway my name is Scott and you can contact me on
smgdray1@yahoo.com
Please do even if its to say your still here ,
Id love to talk to you
Maybe we can help eachother ?
I mean all this in a strictly friendly manner
No strings attached.
I just need to talk to someone, and you seem the one to me .
Take care
Scott
Hello… I am all a lone.. anger.. and yes .. I think about death… trauma… yes!!! My husband leading a double life… like 40 years we been married.. and he been on dating sites and sex people!!! ( years). I am feeling just as you!! Sorry for all the pain… and feeling like .. who can I trust.. help!!!!!!
Your not alone with your feelings at all I’ve been struggling with depression and anxiety since age 10 and I’m so done with my life 30 years of having this shit when I was younger I was able to hide it and deal with it much better now I’m 40 my depression anxiety has caused me to loose my job gain 50 pounds I don’t have the energy to even shower daily anymore I know I look awful but, I don’t care anymore I think I’m nearing my end this next time I will complete my suicide I’ve thought of three ways I’m going to take myself out I’ve attempted to kill myself several times and failed I’m still here I also pray I just die in my sleep and this inner pain ended I hope tonight is the night I just die because I’m tired of being disappointed when I wake up I’m still alive just take my worthless life let me die and cure a child of cancer please I beg of you I can’t do this anymore I can’t continue to be a burden on my husband and family I’ve sunk into this episode of severe depression starting last June and it’s only getting worse anti depressants aren’t helping the anxiety meds only help me sleep I’m done I can’t do this anymore so I’m either going to hang myself blow my head off or carbon dioxide poison myself I’ve tried over doses they don’t work for me I’ve planned out each way I’ve put a lot of thought in this and now just need to choose the way I’m going to go and do it and soon my husband is going to be so mad at me when he finds out I’ve been fired and I just want to end my emptyness sadness that reaches into my body and makes me just want to die I can’t do this anymore I hope my heart stops working while I sleep tonight just take my pain away
am only 23 and I feel the same way my father always criticizes me everything I do he always has a problem with it my father threw me out once and his way of apology is money I am always so lonely and always in my little corner my heart hurts all the time I try my best to not try stress out myself but its like anytime something good happened my mood seems to automatically go on shut down because am so scared of getting hurt and disappointed because it has happened over and over again am too scared my happiness will end that even before it does I end it myself. And for people like me esp. from Africa parents don’t understand depression because for as long as they provide for you they own and control every expect of your life always saying you should not complain you are better off but wait a minute is being lonely depressed and suicidal really better off
truth be told I feel ill be happier if I was dead
I’m struggle no one understand me I m tired suffer emotion brain like crazy I feel want die doctor don’t care pray god help me I crying want give up no more patient I feel empty but I’m worry my daughter and poor my mom suffer make me pain aniexty not sleep addict my body not accept not easy very suffer hard to explain how I feel thank you
To all dealing with this disease please keep fighting, keep praying, keep positive and keep going!! We can’t let this beat us!! I Love You All!!
Hey, I’m here to say that life can ne hard sometimes but at the end it always works and you just have to believe that, trust me. And don’t hate God, because he knows what you have been going through everyday since you were a child and he is not going to give you something that you can’t handle because he loves you way too much to leave you alone. And You may not see but sometimes he will put somethings in our life that we may not like but he puts it there for a reason, you may not see it right now but soon it’s coming, you just have to wait and be patience. Also don’t ever think you’re ugly because you’re not, you’re a child of the most high God amd he loves you very much, he loves us all. I think you are a wonderful mom just by thinking about your kids like that by seeing they can’t live without you, ROCK ON !!! 😁😊😀😎
Just by thinking about your kids that shows you are a very caring person. To help with your emotions go outside your house a take a deep breath and be outside for a minute or two, you could exercise too, also listen to music, try going to the park with your kids and boyfriends and get a slice of pizza or something. I do hope you listen to go amd pray every night. You could try listening to Joel Osteen, he is a very good about explain what is going on in your life and about how God helps you. Remember you are not alone someone will come to you to help you out. I’m going to pray for you. But please don’t give up. I have been through difficulties too, on Aug 19, 2016 on a Friday, I got into a quad crash/acciedent in Pomona and I was only 12 years old, I got hurt pretty bad bit not as bad as my dad. I had to go to the hospital and and get surgery because my spleen shattered and plus I had two big scars on my leg and a scar between my eyebrows. And it sucked because I like wearing shorts and I like to show a little and I am very picky about my appearence. It’s hard to understand and realize but I know that he will never give us something that we can’t habdle, at least I’m alive with my dad. Also this year I’m being homeschooled which I hate because I’ve always been a public school kid and now I’m being homeschooled because of my actions. I really hope I can go back to school. But I hope that this homeschooling will help me in the future. 🙏😀😊
Anyways good luck !!! 🍀
Never feel like you are alone because you are not, there is someone coming to you very soon, just be patience.
I’m praying for you
You are beautiful, outstanding, amazing, and remember you are a child of the most high God !!! 🌸🌞🙏❤
Remember you may not feel loved but there is someine who does love you and that is God, and the people around you and maybe just maybe someone coming towards your way. ❤🌞
Hope you have a good day, may the lord be with you !!! 🌞
I read every word you wrote. I’m 29 and have felt depressed ever since I was 12 and had unfortunate things happen. I always used to tell myself it will get better, that once I grow up things will get better. They haven’t, theyve gotten much worse and I feel also, that I am a failure, that my family and the people that should be close couldn’t be further. But I pushed them so its my fault, so now I have not one soul to talk to about these crazy thoughts,.
I hear everyone who feels like they just cant anymore, or they want to give up. But don’t, I will never stop believing there has to be something better, there has to be something to make me think that all this craziness and sadness was worth it….there has to be….right?
I thought i was the only one feeling these thoughts.It is crazy. I dont know what else to do anymore and i have 6 kids. I want my normal life back. I keep taking these meds. They dont seem to work most of the time. I lay in bed almost everyday all day. When i use to go out it didnt really bother me now it bothers me everywhere i go. Im in fear. I have no support. I cant leave my kids. What else do i do im sick and tired of feeling this way. Exhausted all the time. I dont enjoy nothing anymore. I am now 37 i have been going through this for 4 years now.
I think you should see a Dr. and ask to check your Thyroid levels, it sounds like all the Thyroid symptoms. I ve had Thyroid issues for a long time and my depression comes from my thyroid problems some of thyroid symptoms are:
Feeling shaky
Sad
Mood swings
Not interested in sex
You gain weight without a reason.
You should really check your thyroid. You could even Google Thyroid condition
I understand. I feel the same way. I have prayed to die also because I don’t understand my purpose here.
I understand everything you say… I understand. I’m with you. I’m so sorry we go through this.
I feel the same. It is terrible!! It is so hard to live like this,
I understand exactly how you feel, reading your comment was like reading my own thoughts. And no one around me cares about what your going thru, or even matters to anyone. I hate my family, have no friends cause I’ve pushed everyone away from me. I think about suicide but also have kids and know I’m probably too much of a bitch to do it. I have a family to support but can’t seem to focus on getting a job. My savings is almost about gone. I only see 1 way out of it, I’m tired of all this. It stresses me out, it’s exhausting to keep going forward. I go for walks at night praying to get shot, or stabbed from a mugger. I wish I could find someone in trouble and give my life saving someone’s life who’s worth it. It sucks that you have 1 life to live and you mess it up. I see so many happy people around and wish for that. My wife couldn’t care less what I’m going thru, she would if it was one of her Facebook friends. It sucks to know that I’ve gone thru so much for her, and she is the way she is. Blames me for evwrything, makes me feel like less of a man. It gives her joy to see me down, gives everyone joy, i get so aggravated by nothing, my chest always hurts, whole body aches, I’m tired of it and want it to be over so bad.
I understand what you are going through. You arent alone in your thoughts and feelings
I know exactly how you feel..
let not your heart be troubled beieve in the Lord Jesus Christ, He takes care everything ,because he really cares He died for us on the cross once and for all.
Feel for you. I have been clinically depressed for many years. The recent death of my girl friend did not help things. I lost my appetite when she could not eat. Its been one and a half years. Still can’t eat more than a spoonful of food. And i am a registered nurse with alot of psychology experience. Still i cant fix me. I am a train wreck waiting to happen. Best of luck to you. God bless😊
I am done with life.My best friend, (my mom)died last year and nothing has been ok since.My father died three days ago.I have also lost both my grandmothers, my step grandmother, my stepfather,one of my grandfathers, and years ago my unborn baby.I have three teenaged children, but they would be better off without me.Other than that, I am completely alone.I have no hope.I am not worthy of being loved.There is no point in going on.After I receive a couple of things that were my dad’s to leave for my kids, I am going to stop drinking water and voluntarily die of dehydration.I tried overdosing last year after my mom died, but I ended up two points away from a coma and on a ventilator. My only consolation is that I will soon be will be out of pain forever.
Kris, I can’t begin to know what has gone on in your life that has caused you to feel this way. I urge you to please – PLEASE – call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 and talk to someone. There is light in your life and they can help you see it even though you may not be able to right now.
As for you thinking your children would be better off without you, let me relate this to you…I have a very good friend whose husband committed suicide, leaving three teenaged children. THEY WERE DEVASTATED. And 12 years later, they still haven’t recovered. Each and every one of them thinks it was their fault. You may not be able to see it at the moment, but there is no chance in hell that your children would be better off without you and I can pretty much guarantee that going through with your plan will cause them problems for the rest of their lives.
Please call and ask for help. The number is 1-800-273-8255.
If you haven’t seen a Dr regarding your depression, please do. My husband, the love of my life, committed suicide. It’s been 36 years and I’m still not over it. His death had a great impact on many friends and family. And our daughter is so angry. Back then, depression wasn’t admitted or understood as well as today. I didn’t understand why he slept all the time, etc. I, too, now suffer with major depressive disorder. Meds and counseling help. Please don’t consider suicide as an option. You would be causing your children pain, guilt and more that they will never get over. Someone once told me how suicide is selfish. It’s true. You would leave a world of hurt and pain. Sometimes meds can take up to 2 weeks before you start to feel better and sometimes your dosage may need adjusting, but it will help you tremendously.
I have the same feeling I wanna die and kill myself I feel like a burden to everyone especially to my fiancé I hate how I make him feel how I always have to have his attention at least that’s what he thinks that I’m causing attention I’ve been feeling like this for years and years and no one understands not my family no one they thought it was my fault for speaking my mind my mom told me,”next time keep your mouth shut and we won’t be in this situation I guess I can’t tell anyone anymore i also told one of my friends and she said I’m only doing it to cause attention but nobody knows what I’m feeling so I know exactly what you are going threw
my heart hurts all the time, i want to stop feeling this way. i don’t think ive been happy for the past 3 years now. i lost interest in everything i loved. i don’t feel like there is anything here for me anymore. i want to disappear..
i feel the same way. my heart hurts a lot too. i really feel the pain of death all day. noone understands it. i don’t know wha to do anymore. my heaet is hurting a lot like heart attack all the time
Me too I am sick because of depression also can’t eat but God wants us to have faith we will be tested b it in the end we are all just spinning our wheels without God. Endure till your physical body cant. We need Faith God bbc.co h help us.
I feel like that every single day. No one understands how hard it is for me to want to live.
Next time someone asks you “how are you” tell the truth! Gas station attendant, customer service reps and bill collectors. Even if the convo lasts over a hour or so…..you would be shocked how many people feel like you do. Comedians are mostly made up of highly depressed people with a few failed suicide attempts. I tell everyone In sick….I have the human condition
Start with the phone book. Mental health professionals will NOT ridicule you when you look for help. They, above all people, know the serious effects of clinical depression.
They will NOT tell anyone you know. YOU don’t have to tell anyone, either. Whatever you tell a doctor stays with the doctor. They don’t go blabbing all over town. You are protected by law in this, so put that way down on your list of worries.
If you can’t afford to see a private professional, check the county or city government agencies in your phone book. Call them and see what options you may have. Do it from a pay phone, if you want.
But do it. Today.
There are some things, Cindy, that are very difficult to handle on your own. This is one of them. It doesn’t mean that you’re incompetent or weird, or weak-willed. It doesn’t mean anything negative. It means that it’s time to reach out a hand to those who are willing and able to help you. You are not an island.
Please. Call someone TODAY. You’ll be so glad you did.
Listen to this song, and its message:
Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there’s always tomorrow
Lean on me, when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
‘Til I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on
Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you don’t let show
Lean on me, when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
‘Til I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on
If there is a load you have to bear
That you can’t carry
I’m right up the road
I’ll share your load
If you just call me
So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you’d understand
We all need somebody to lean on
Lean on me when you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on
For it won’t be long
Till I’m gonna need
Somebody to lean on
Lean on me…
“Lean On Me” by Bill Withers
Thank you so much Steve 😢 I just read what you wrote and that song😢 made me feel a little better
What if you have no friends?
Ten years ago, the man to whom I was engaged committed suicide. I have never been a big fan of life, and after he died, I didn’t see much reason to stick around, missing him terribly.
I didn’t leave this life only because I am not ‘free’ to do so. I have 2 children from a previous marriage, so have a social and moral obligation to stick around and raise them. But, oh, once they’re raised, I’m outta here!
It’s strange that while most people see it as a success that I’ve stuck around and raised my kids (they’re almost old enough to be independent now), no one WANTS to see that I simply don’t like being alive. I miss my boyfriend, don’t like working for a living, am not terribly atractive, don’t have enough money to really enjoy life, and find every day to be a burden. I feel like a failure for NOT saying F#$K EVERYBODY! It’s my life and I don’t want it anymore! Every day that I stay alive is another day that I’ve lived for other people.
People tell me to be glad for my health. I tell them that my health is the problem!
I find it amusing that my oldest child hates me and often wishes me dead. So I stuck around to raise a kid that wishes I was dead? How ironic.
It’s insulting to have so many people insist that anyone who does not like to be alive has a disease, a mental illness. I’m not mentally ill…I don’t like it here!
I detest that I must spend so much of my time doing things that bore me to tears and make me angry…work all blessed day at a job so that I can pay rent and buy food so that I can go back to the blessed job the next day. Work extra hard so that I won’t get fired, only to receive a poor review and no raise. I have ADHD so I am not good at structured jobs, but unstructured jobs don’t pay enough to raise two kids with a deadbeat dad. I buy my kids nice things and make sure we live in a safe neighborhood where they can make friends and go to good schools, only to have them yell at me and mess up the house and threaten me with child protective services, and tell their friends what an asshole I am. Listen to them bicker bicker bicker and fight over doing the smallest chore. Pick up the slack from my ex leaving them totally to me to raise and support.
Get up tomorrow and do it all again.
There are some people who just don’t like the human experience and want out. I am one of those people.
I’ve done the shrinks. I’ve done the antidepressants (gained 75lbs!). I’ve done the family counseling. I still don’t like it here. And I still have to go to work tomorrow.
I’m not going to leave the planet just yet, because there’s still an obligation to those kids (whom I don’t love anymore, they have just worn me out with their mean, selfish behavior) yet, but I look forward to the day when I can say “Sayonara!” and find some peace.
Maybe my late boyfriend will be there to greet me. It’s something to hope for, anyway. At least he loved me.
Well u really do love ur kids but u just cnt take this anymore. Trust me i understand just trust in god and u will b ok. He never gives us more than we can handle!
God gives you more than you can handle. That’s just a saying. People take their lives. They had more than they could handle.
Ha…. Trust God. What a boreing trendy thing to say. I watched my grandpa die of a heart attack, as my grandmother cried please lord. My grandma was a saint. And to have people say trust God????
Your not alone. Same as what you feel I have 1 daughter 7 yrs old. Im trying my best .
I am always praying and strong faith in God.
I listen worship song.
Joining prayer meeting and hanging out with friends. I cant sleep
I am thin and sorrounded by eye black.
But i Cant loose my hope
Fight for this as I can do
Sue i understand exactly what you are or maybe going through but you wouldnt have written that if you didnt want help or want someone to talk to. Im sure no matter how you look you will always be gorgeous to someone. When you say you dont want to be here any more i know exactly how you feel hun because thats how I feel each and every day of my life. I may not have two kids or a deadbeat job, but i do understand. This may be crazy but i am a 13 year old female and every day of my life i just want my pain to stop i want it all to end.
I to have an obligation to stay here because im afraid that if for one minute i leave my family will fall apart. Last year my mom tryed to commit suicide and for the longest time i told myself that it was my fault, When in reality its no ones fault that someone else is depressed its not your fault nor mine that me and you just dont wanna be here. Sue i think the fact the you put your kids into thought before actually killing your self and i very much so think for that you are a good parent and im sure that your kids love you but they are at that age where there going to tell you that they hate you and its all your fault.
Dont let them ruin what progress you have made in life and with every day i wish for there to be something to bring you a smile and that there is one thing to make you appreciate that god put you here for a reason. Take care and Sue send me an e-mail some time and we can talk more.
becca_boo_2010@hotmail.com
With all the love in the world ,
Rebecca Lynn♥
Your kids love you Sue, what you explained is exactly how I feel about life… But I am too much of a coward to try and commit suicide, i just pray that when I lie down to sleep, I never wake up. When it is my time to go , I will be ready, I just hope my time is soon
Rebecca, Hope you are feeling better. You are a very kind and giving person. Take care, Jim
I can understand what your going through sue, be strong and hold on a little bit longer, time will heal you not death. You do love your kids even if you say you don’t. And they love you too. They are just kids, but one day they will realize what a great loving mother you are. Stay strong sis😢
I know exactly how you feel I’ve been depressed since I was 17 I tried to commit suicide when I was 30 I hate living and since my father my sister and two months ago my mother passed away I am totally shot every night I cry everyday I get angry with people I haven’t wanted to live for a long time but since my mother passed its been 100% worse I go day today I see a psychiatrist I’m on medicine nothing helps I really dread every single day thank you
Michael… If u are around and wish to talk sometime hit me up at hrd2comeby@aol.com. that goes for anyone.. I have endured and suffered relentless depression most of my life. I have experience every emotion and feeling that everyone has experienced here and I know how it feels. I am tormented everyday with the thoughts of not wanting to be here anymore. Of wanting to just vanish go away and die in my sleep. I know what the pull feels like.. I could use someone to talk to once in a while also. Unfortunately doctors and medicine and therapy never really has helped me too much. But if anyone just wants to talk feel free to email me. I could use a friend
Michael, Hope you start feeling better. I feel the same way. If I tell too much to my med. provider, they’ll pu me in the hospitol. Got no help last time, 2008. Couldn’t sleep with 5 others in room, etc. Flashlight through window of door every 15 mins. (light sleeper so couldn’t sleep. Meds. didn’t help but do for some. Worth a try from a competent dr. Hope others can get help they deserve. Take care, John
LOVE THAT!!!!! I started smoking ….now I’m up to 4 packs a day. You summed up exactly what I’ve been thinking now since I was 6 years old…. “My health is my problem” ! I have no health insurance, boyfriend, ex-husbands, husband, kids, friends, job, money, self esteem..etc….just a dying narcissistic drug addict mom who at 74 still continues to somehow consume my life with anger and a broken heart. I respect you for staying alive for your children…..💖
I too feel like you do, but you say your not mentally ill but just do not like life anymore, I would love to give you words of cheer, but I won@t I suggest you spend some time working in a morge looking at some of the dead bodys that cannot move anymore, also you should get a job in the morge reception and see the pain on the faces of the familys that have to identifie there loveones due to natural death or suicide if at this stage you still whish to commit suicide then maybe you cannot be helped, but theres something you are missing, do you really think that anyone can take there own life and just get away with doing such a thing, I DONT THINK SO, your life is not yours to take. TRUST ME
IM WITH YOU SUE..AND THAT’S REALLY SAD.
BUT I DONT REALLY HATE LIFE… ITS JUST THE PEOPLE THAT I HATE. I AM ANTI-REALITY. SOMETIMES I NEVER WANTED TO WAKE UP ANYMORE. I DONT KNOW IF “GOD” OR “JESUS” IS HELPING ME. IM TRYING TO HELP MYSELF BUT ITS NOT ENOUGH. ITS REALLY TOUGH LIVING UR LIFE WITH PEOPLE WHO DOESNT REALLLY SEEM TO CARE AT ALL.. AND MAYBE WHEN IM DEAD I HOPE ILL FIND THE PLACE WHERE I TRULLY BELONG. COS THIS WORLD IS FULL OF HATRED AND ANGER FOR SO LONG.
Depressed people are highly sensitive to things around them…I know what your saying 🙂 I feel the same way
Yeah well I have all the symptoms for a few years now everyday. I have never broken a law, hurt anyone or been a bad person. My ex has 4 of my 5 children and won’t let me see them or even talk to them. He bonded out of jail and even got away from homeland security. Being kept from my children is killing me…I can’t stand the pain anymore and no one cares or will help me..I am nothing now..I tried fighting the only ways that I knew and it was not good enough. I will not make it much longer..the depression is destroying all that was good in me…Even God does not hear my prayers anymore…THis is hell
Laura, it just rolled 2016 and i came across your reply to this original post. I went 11 years without my daughter because the ex kept her from me and caused me so much pain. Im hoping you are ok. I know how hard it is going without your children. Omg!! Im hoping you will be notified by my reply and i hope to hear from you. Id really like to know if you’re ok and how life has been for you since this post, i stinkin years ago.
Email me at mydollin5@yahoo.com
Also, i wrote a book about those 11 years without my daughter due to that douchebag pile of shit who kept her from me and you can be in line for a copy of it for free when i publish it. The facebook page for it is at this link https://www.facebook.com/The-Day-by-Carla-McDonald-Newson-261745213879354/
I hope to hear from you. Oh yeah…. And “god” is a ficticious sky fairy who doesnt do a fucking thing for people! Depression is serious. Mental breakdowns and long term pain from depression, stess and no support is something that must be treated with lifestyle changes, medication and sometimes even physical therapy. What sky fairy does all that for us?? Wjat sky fairy “takes our pain away”?????
NONE!!
Im here for you.
Laurie,
I’m Laurie too and I haven’t seen my kids in over two years due to my ex brainwashing them. Then, it took me 4 years to get my house back from my ex only to have it destroyed and taking every last drop of money that I had to make it even habitable for me. Personally, I wish I would just die and be given peace for what ever is to be. I’m done as the lack of seeing my children (both in their teens now) and no one wanting to be with me as I’m so depressed, makes me just want to give up completely. I don’t care about anything anymore. Nothing at all. I just sit and stare at the wall instead of going to work.
i hate mylife at the moment due to the fact im just 19 and i got pregnant by my ex last year and not once did he visit me and now i called him and said that i gave birth to his daughter where i really and truly i has a miscarriage so one of these days imma drink myself to the mood of sucidal …just gonna jump of a building ….man i dnt knw why i feel like this and me n him where only 2gther for a lil bit but i cant believe me made me feel like this…. i know ur probably finkin stupid young girl but nooooo.
Kelly,
I`m sure your a beautiful young lady and you have a lot of life ahead of you. I1m sorry for your lose and that your ex is an asshole but here it is. Love is a connection between to people or many people or things and it doesnt matter if its a person you just met on the street but if you love that person losing them in anyway is going to tear you apart. a broken heart can always be mended and you will find love again but in the mean-time spend some time looking at the stars take a trip to somewhere you have always wanted to go. And Kelly write down how you feel in a journal and when you dont feel like this anymore i want you to go back and look at what you wrote and remember that if you could make it through that pain you can make it through the rest of life. Take life by the balls and show life who the boss is.
With love always♥,
Becca Lynn
@Kelly –
Stupid young girl? No. You’ve made some mistakes, we all have. We all DO. Try very hard to find some help. It’s not easy to raise yourself up from where you are all by yourself. There are a lot of community and free programs that really CAN help you deal with what’s going on in your life. PLEASE seek them out. People WANT to help you. Let them.
sorry. couldn’t read it all. i know depression. it gets me often.
nearly fifty now.struggle out my last years and let it be over.
not suicide. suicide thinks it owns me, it doesn’t. one thing i’ve mastered, suicide needs a better reason, many of life’s things elude me, suicide can have me when i’m terminal, cancer or something. dealt a bad hand. couldn’t amount to shit. message to all mothers, everywhere, love your children the consequences are serious. i wouldn’t piss on mine. nasty self centered fucker. still thinks the world should revolve around her. never gave a fuck about me. beat me to a pulp and broke me before i was three. beat me into my teens. hate her with passion that description defies. i was a child. i was innocent. victim of depression. now depression has me. evil stops behind me. break the chain. pray for cancer.
@ dieter
I hate to tell you but cancer is not the answer. speaking as someone who’s had experience with such an illness i can only tell you that cancer will make your depression increase & far more difficult to deal with.. and id like to add that its quit insulting to those of us who do have cancer or have had cancer, for someone of such ignorance to pray for such a horrible thing
i find it quite insulting that you would choose to take anything as insulting on a depression forum.. and doubly insulted that you would equal cancer and serious depression/suicidal feelings choosing cancer to be the “winner” of this contest of pain.. being equally crass, cancer doesn’t usually last as long, this type of depression usually lasts months, years, or lifetimes.. i suffer both.. emotionally from childhood, physical pain chronically for over 25 years due to neurological issues..I’m not sure which is worse.. been depressed and suicidal enough to kill myself over both.. one suicide attempt was directly due to the pain i was in and my inability to control it due to being homeless.. could i have gone to the hospital that night? yes, but not the whole coldspell or winter.. HYPOCRISY Yes, my first three sentences…m3nastr3a
Dieter, I feel your pain. Most, if not all of my pain and anger comes from my Mother. She is a despicable woman who did awful and terrible things to me. The hardest part is having no one who understands, including my brother and sister who never had to suffer to her ways. Trying to express myself, without anyone understanding, makes me crazy. I have zero self esteem because of her. My whole life she has been kicking me to the ground with either her words or fists. Words hurt more than anything. My hatred for her is ruining my life. I can’t let the past go. I’ve tried.. I wish for illness all the time as well. In fact, my mental state already affects my physical health. I can feel myself dying, and I do nothing about it
Im 15. and i know us teenagers have our whole life ahead of of. but honestly i dont see myself living to the age of least 20. depression. it can be anything about anyone abuot something i dont know. but i do know is ive been depressed since i was 12. before that i was a happy kid. i loved life. and everything in it. but after i turned 12 things just got me down… ive planned so many ways of killing myself just havnt tried it yet. hang myself. jump off the westfield.run infront of a carr. jump into the deep end of the sea. you could say im fucked but dont blame me. this is what depression is doing to me. yeah im 15 but like i said i dont see myself living to the age of 20. one day when my mum wakes up and come and wakes me up for school. she’ll find her daughter who has O.D on pills. or slit her throat because she is over life and everything in it. We get one life. i dont know why god gave me mine.
Tyla, you are young, as am i ,and i can tell you that suicide is not the answer their are many alternatives you just have to find the one that suits you… ive been depressed for quit some time now but i would never consider suicide as an option.. you wont see me go without a fight… we have plenty of time to change our lives around.. trust me ive been threw plenty…parents divorce.. kicked out of my house… feeling neglected… school, drama, boys… and more recently ive been dignosed with caner!!! and PLENTY more!!!!!!! id litterally have to write a novel to explain the hardships ive been through but if i can hang in there so can you!!! dont give up so easy
To all of you wishing for death! I have wished for death to come upon me for years because I couldn’t take what life had offered me either. But… you don’t live in a fish bowl! There is an entire world out there to see and new experiences to have if you give them a chance. I know because I have done it. I have a daughter who tells me she hates me all the time when she isn’t getting what she wants from me (not what she needs but wants). I have another daughter who was diagnosed anorexic and I watch her slowly killing herself daily by her refusal to eat or seek treatment. Being an adult she has control over her medical treatment at this point. To top that off, just a couple of days ago she was diagnosed with cervical cancer! I can tell you people that when you leave this earth, you may end your suffering but you just begin the suffering of the people who love you. I know because I am watching my daughter die every day and I suffer deeply! I love my daughter and cannot imagine life without her. If you take nothing else away from what I tell you, take this… you will be missed and you will inflict pain on the people who love you. Seek treatment, if it doesn’t work the first time, keep looking until it does, get out there and life life. God gave you your life to do with what you want (its called free will). Don’t sit in that fish bowl and wish for something better. Get up, dust yourself off and start over today. It’s never over until it is over.
“Get up, dust yourself off and start over today. It’s never over until it is over.”
It’s a cliche now, but it’s true. Just do it. No one is going to get help for you. It has to be you. You have to take the first step, reach out. There IS someone out there willing to extend their hand to help. It may take a little bit of effort to find them, but they’re there.
Thanks for the comment, Mindy.
Ever since my kids been out of my life Ive been really depress,but for some reason I believe in knowing I can realize in times I can catch myself wanting to make me a better person.. JUST DONT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF BECAUSE IF YOU DO YOU WILL FALL DEEPER THAN WHAT YOU THINK
I am 21 and a recent college graduate, I thought once I graduated my life would really start. To be honest, my life has basically come to a screeching halt. I haven’t felt this way in a long time.
I was born with a cleft-lip and pallet so I have never been “normal” all through middle school and high school I was constantly ridiculed for the way I look. I would often attempt suicide but always wake up, or wouldn’t fully go through with it.
Then, I moved from Chicago to Tampa to go to college and start over. I met an amazing guy, who I love more then anything. Well, since I am doing nothing with my life after graduating because I cannot find a job anywhere I have been drinking a lot to ease the pain. And I haven’t been the best girlfriend after 4 years of being together. So we got into an argument and he left me, he packed up all his stuff and left and won’t even answer the phone for me.
Just last night I attempted to kill myself and ended up in the hospital but convinced them that I didn’t mean to overdose it was an accident so they didn’t keep me for 3 days. I told myself today that enough was enough and this depression cannot control me any longer, but it is now 12:18 and I am crying uncontrollably because I have no control over my life.
I just want to find a job in order to make my parents proud and I just want to hear my boyfriends voice one more time. I just don’t want to feel so alone anymore. I swear I cannot feel anything but pain inside my chest. I also just witnessed a man crossing the street and getting killed by a car and in my mind I wished that I was him, I wished that was me getting hit. I just feel like I have nothing left to live for no job no love and no one at home to go and talk with and on top of all of that I have no insurance so I cant go to a doctor. I don’t know what to do anymore or where to turn.
One thing I’ve come to realize over the years is that life is what you make it. Sometimes it’s great, sometimes you screw it up. Sometimes it makes no sense at all.
You have complete control over your life – you just have to come to grips with that fact. You may think you’re spiraling out of control. You might be, a little bit. But it’s never too late to grab hold and keep going. It won’t be a joyride, I can tell you. Some days will be better than others. I think my favorite saying, at least this month, is this: “Some days you’re the pigeon, some days you’re the statue.” It’s what you do with your statue days that’s going to determine where you’re headed.
The first thing I’d suggest you do is open the phone book. There are a number of community groups and agencies that would love to help you – if you ask, and if you let them. But you have to take the first step. Stop being a victim, stop being a statue.
Ok.. I have no idea what I am writing right now. I live in Europe. 22male. I feel HARD depression for last couple of years. not long ago my girlfiend left me. no, it was not that broke up when she say that we should seperated for a while. It was on our holiday, she was layin in the bed and chating with other guy. and I knew that, she didnt even tryied to hide it from me. When we returned I was going to visit my friend cuz he living not far away from airport. she went home. I said her to call me when u will reach our house safely. She said, No, I will not. Can you image what I should feel?
Now almost two months passed. I am sitting in the library, trying to finish my univeristy stuff(last year) and writing this instead of my work. I feel deep deep depresion. I cant realy answer why. I am really handsome. I am tall blonde guy, strong. You maybe even can think that I am stupid over esteemd douchebag if you will meet me outside accidently.
I created that look for my self. I do not know why. Maybe for whole my life I was seeking for being acknowledged( dunno is that word mean what I am trying to say, eng is not my native). The point is that I never been good at anything. Really, my mother did all the things for me when I was a child. She even now act with me like with a kid. She doing my bed for me in the morning. Right now I feel like am trying to explain not for you but for my self why I so unhappy.
I am not good at anything. I dont know why. I cant dance, sing, sport, study. Nothing. I am real looser. Everybody thinks that I am cool cuz when ppl arround I am making stupid asshole jokes, always walking with my head up(you understand what that means right?) but inside I am dying. And I am dying for a long time. My father always was a strong men. He wouldnt even take deppresion like ilness. He will say that a shit that some faggots created. And I always was a weak, no , not in pyshics, in my soul. I am hopeless. When you will be reading this I probably lying 3 meters in the ground. I have no more energy to fake my self for others. Sometimes I dont even know what AM I. I was wearing those masks for whole my life. I have a lil brother, and I see in him my self. I think that he could feel the same way when he will grow up. now he 7.
all my life I was forcing to be like a king. To have a beatifull wife, and other shit from movies. point is that, I know that I will never have anything like that. I just pathetic, but ignorant ashole. Sometimes I want to apologise for whole the world. I was a bully in high school. Why? I dunno, now i think i just wanted to be heared. Its to late now. most interesting part that after my suicide all the ppl arround me, those fake friends that I was hangin with to look cool and tough, neighbours, relatives will say? HE ? NO WAY. HOW COULD HE? I WOULD NEVER IMAGINE THAT THAT GUY COULD TO SOMETHING LIKE THIS. This is goodbye.
Steph,
what you said really touched my heart i cried while reading this to me you sound like and amazing young lady,and theres only one way to find what you really needstop looking You have so much to live for. I would really like to talk to you more and actually get to know you so if you wouldnt mind maybe you could send me an e-mail and we could chat more becca_boo_2010@hotmail.com.
With all love i can give♥,
Rebecca Lynn♥
I have been suffering my whole life. At 3 years old I was severely burned. I spent three months in a hospital. My mother told me when I was an adult that after that experience, I was never the same. I was a happy, playful child before. Afterwards I was withdrawn and alone. I was made fun of through school. People making fun of me and calling me names. Physically abusing me. At 11 years old I skipped school and swallowed a handful of aspirins and sat there and waited to die. Being 11 I did not know that aspirin could not kill you. I have been subject to abuse from school and a cruel granfather who would make fun of me and beat me. I never told my parents, I just kept the pain inside. My whole life has been filled with depression, wanting to kill myself and loneliness. I believe the trauma I experienced as a child has ruined my life. How does a three year old deal with traumatic experiences? I have two children one 20 the other 11. I have been seperated for six years. My childrens mother wants to be friends. How can I be friendly to someone who wants me out of her life and no longer wants to be married? I feel like I am grieving a death. I am 50 now. I look back on my life and wish I had been the stain on the mattress than having to live 50 years of depession, heartache and abuse. I have had a few great times in my life but it has mostly sucked. My will to live is weak because a person can only take so much. I am on depression meds but I am still depressed. I wish I would just drop dead. I am tired of hearing this crap about God. He has not helped me in 50 years. Why would He let people suffer. I have put my faith and trust in God only to be let down over and over again.
Misery in Missouri
Dear misery, I am also a 50 year old female struggling like crazy!! I have a wonderful husband of 29 years and 3 children. I guess to some it up I am a rescuer yet I can’t help myself!! I wish we all had a pain free life, but we don’t!! I would be lying if I said I haven’t thought of suicide I have. Family, friends, neighbors let me down. I expect people to treat me the way I treat them, and that just is not the case!! Death is final no repeats!! So when I want an excape I read about god or go out in nature!! We live in a “all about me society “. That’s too bad!! I am going to try and volunteer or do something to help other people!! Lick my wounds and try to be around positive people, not selfish people.
Agreed about the god thing. Re: your torment growing up, I genuinely wish you had a spirit animal wearing an “I’ll cut a bitch” T-shirt who exposed all of your abusers and took them down a world of rungs. And I wish that for you now.
am 16 years old i have been depress for at least two years now and i start having obsessive thoughts my parent dont get it and everyday i feel my chest is sbout to pop out and i feel a short in my breath .i also discover that since my depression i find it easy for me to hate people than to love them am kinda scared since i always have those thought that my life is short and i fell a change in my heartbeat it kinda beat faster
Jean Francis, I have no answers for you, except to urge you to reach out until you get some help. You don’t have to do this alone.
People who’ve never dealt with depression really don’t “get it”. They don’t know what it’s like, they don’t understand. You have to get to someone who DOES understand. That’s where you’ll find help, and that’s where you’ll find HOPE.
Jean, what you described is exactly what i felt for so long and still feel sometimes today. I know how wierd and scary it feels trying to live a normal life amongst your peers but feeling like you have none of the tools to do so. I used to get inexplainable chest pains and the feeling that i wasn’t getting enough air nomatter what i did. It sounds like you could have an anxiety disorder along with some depression. I have both of these things but for me they are caused by Lyme Disease, an infection carried by ticks. Im only 3 years older than you and just graduated high school btw. Talk to your parents about how you’ve been feeling and try to get some help. I thought i just had terrible anxiety and depression, it turned out to be something completely different causing those terrible things. Get a good test done for Lyme to see just in case and if its nothing like that it could just be anxiety and depression which are pretty treatable but trust me you dont want the pills they put you on, ive been there and still am…. hope this helps.
During the past 6 or 7 years my life started to fall apart all of a sudden, i always had no confidence cause i look alot younger than my age im almost 22 now, i have the worst relationship with my parents whenever i feel sad or try to tell them any of my problems they just make fun of me, and then all of the people i have in my life started to walk away till this day, and now i have no friends, a family that couldnt care less and everyone just takes me for granted like im a kid and some makes fun of me, im really trying hard to keep intouch with the few people i have but nobody replies back..nobody cares or wants to be a part of my life and i never did anything to anyone,my problem was just that i was always too friendly with everyone. and now im about to graduate from college soon which is also a horrible chapter in my daily life and i just lost all the hopes that i had before.. i cant find a job or any girl to like me cause of the simple fact that i look young, i lost interest in doing all of the activities and im always stuck in my room thinking my life is over and it havent even started yet, im still young and i dont want my life to end now.. i just dont know what to do anymore
i have been depressed lately. idk what to do. i havent been myself. i have been thinking bout dying sometimes. and i barely sleep or eat. i need help. i feel like im alone with nobody out there to help me. im confused and sad all the time
i feel like everyone that i loved has left me and i have nobody else. what do i do. i wish i could hqave a good life. i miss my love ones and i wish they were here with me right now
Your not alone. I posted the first comment on here almost 2 years ago and still trying to live with this illness. I have lost two friends/coworkers to suicide and I still think of it often. I have tried medication and it didn’t help. I know some say keep searching for the right medicine but I’m not fond of doctors and death would actually be better then living my life on meds and constant doctor visits. I have a wonderful person in my life but that doesn’t keep these thoughts out of my head. Then I not only feel depressed but guilty for involving him into my world of insanity. No one here needs to feel alone because it may be different reasons we are here but we are all on the same boat. Email me any time. Youins27@aol.com
i just wanna die.. since age 12 and now age 20, always wanted to die. i tried to kill myself once, but my sister found me and stoped me. no one knows the reason why i hate my life. i have this disease and due to that i was smokin for 2 years. i cry sometimes alone to release it. if i was dead i wouldnt have the problems i have now. i want to be happy. now my deppression is getting worse coz me and my boyfriend broke up. i really loved him and he left, he doesnt talk to me anymore.
Hi am 23 married and i have 1 daughter 2yrs old and i had a love marriage am very depressed cause eveytime me and my husband fight he hits me and i feel like i dont have the courage to do anything. He is verycontrolling and since am an Indian girl we are told not to leave the house but i did course for 12 months midical assistant but i dont wana work i feel like am gona kill my self and i try to do everything but i cant i give up easily and my parents dont support me since i ran away from home and got married to that guy but am stuck and i find no door to get out cause am even scared to leave the house i wish somebody can hold my hand and make walk tht tough road but i know dreams dont come true
Hello everybody.
My friends say I’m always mad and depressed and their right. Im about to turn 12 and I’m to young for it. My parents got a divorce and I’m ok with it. My mom gives me so much stress its horrible, my lungs hurt and it feels like I’m going to fall. I’m to young to have depressen but sometimes I get on my crazy side and forget it. Please give me feed back……..
Nichole- Can you talk to your mom about your feelings? I remember similiar feelings when I was your age the pain of seeing my mom upset at things and how it effected me so much. Maybe someone at school a counsler or a teacher you trust. I have suffered from depression longer then I’ve admitted and I stayed silent about it while hurting so bad on the inside. Talking does help.
weed helps, just puttin that on the table…. sorry to hear about your friends btw…. really thats a horrible thing to live through
I don’t even know why I’m doing this… but I just wanted to let it out… there’s no one else to talk to… so here it goes..
I’m 13 and have been diagnosed with depression since around fifth grade. My parents didn’t do anything about it and nowadays, they don’t even notice. They don’t care and are too unobservant to notice anything about me. I feel worse every day and recently have stopped sleeping… I don’t know why. I just… can’t. And I’m afraid to tell my parents or talk to them about it. They blow up at the smallest things. I haven’t slept in about two days as of now, which actually is pretty good compared to usual. On the days I do sleep, I get maybe 1-3 hours of sleep total a night. I feel desolate and alone usually throughout the day and am not a very ‘attractive’ girl. Never had a boyfriend and little to no attention in that field. I have a poor self image and am usually picked on in school, which makes it worse, though I’d never tell my classmates this. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I have no life outside of my computer, school, and books really. My life feels like it’s… I don’t even know. I feel like Im drowning these days. And I’ve actually recently noticed that my grades are slipping. : / My parents took me to therapy a few times, though not for this reason or anything related to it. I stopped going, I lost interest in it and just didn’t want to go anymore. My parents complied and went on with their normal lives. They don’t even care about me, or so they make it seem, and they always treat my brothers differently. I’m the middle child and the only girl. You think this would make me special to them or something, but I usually feel that I got the short end of the stick. Sometimes I think about just ending this life, when I think about, (as stupid as this sounds), all of the books left unread and the future I could have ahead of me. I do have some will to live, though that might just be my fear of physical pain. I’ve been hiding how I feel for so long, no one notices anything wrong with me anymore. Or maybe they just don’t care, I really don’t know. Anyways… I’ve nothing else that I’d like to type. I’m sorry for randomly ranting on about next to nothing. I just needed to get it out and it’s better that it’s somewhere my parents or people I might know might see it. Thank you.
Megan, thanks for visiting and sharing.
I am not a therapist or mental health professional, so consider the following worth what you paid for it…
The one thing I’ve found most helpful in what seems like my lifelong struggle with depression is to have a clear purpose beyond myself. In the depths of depression, my thoughts always turned inward, and stayed there. Only when I shifted my thoughts away from ME and on to a greater purpose or goal was I able to operate at anything remotely resembling what I considered to be ‘normal’.
13 is a difficult age, very difficult. You’re occupied with school, and occupied with yourself – starting to grapple with the questions, “Who am I and what am I here for? Is there a purpose for me being here?”
I can’t answer to the first, but to the second, I’ll give you this: your purpose is what you decide it is. To some, that may sound secular and simplistic. But I’ll lay odds you know exactly what I’m talking about. You have the power to decide what your life is and what it will mean.
Why not make it something BIG?
i was severely depressed all through half of middle school and through all of high school. The one thing i can say is try your very hardest to have fun while your in high school… take chances, have sex, smoke some weed, look maybe im not the best influence, Im just saying I really regret not making the most of my high school years. I always felt like i was standing on the sidelines watching everyone else have the good times that i so dreamed i would be entitled to one day. I dont want to say life sucks cuz im tryin not to be catastrophically negative right now like i ususally am, but life will never be easy no matter how much you want it to be, there will always be something bothersome right up in your face telling you your not worthy or you a dumbshit, but its all about keeping in mind that your life isn’t yours to take and your here for a reason, im not saying i believe in god and that he ‘has a plan for all of us’ im just saying there IS a pot of gold at the end of this long dark scary tunnel we call life if you just ride it out till the end no matter what comes your way. i know that for a fact.
I have a big depression problem and i really dont think i can handle it.i have lost my best friend and dont know what to do.she was everything to me but i somehow showed her how much i loved her.now she is gone.I guess one reason is she is gay and i must have scared her now i am so so lost and feel like i betrayed her,now i have been so depressed for 3 weeks now AND HAVE THOUGHTS ABOUT KILLING MYSELF,stupid heh,I TRY TO NOT THINK ABOUT IT BUT ITS ALWAYS ON MY MIND,i feel so useless in my life im known her for 11 years and we best friends forever,im lost in what to think and do
Randi, I don’t know what to tell you other than to seek competent professional help. It’s out there, and you don’t have to look very far to find it. Believe it or not, people really DO care, at least most do.
Hey,
I’m Rebecca i’m 14 I dont wanna kill myself I just need advice. My family is going through a lot and i have been through a lot. I have been very depressed for 3 years Ever since i had my first Surgery since then i have has 2 other surgeries on my left leg and each time im not allowed to walk for a curtain amount of time (depends) Last time it was 6 months and i had to leave school. I want to know what to do to make myself feel better. I have been so sad for so long i dont remember what its like to really laugh or smile. Please i need someones help 🙁
Hello,
I’m 17 and have been suffering severe depression for the past 5 years on and off. For that past 3 years I have had the love of my life by my side to pull me through the hard times. I was bullied at school and put into hospital because of it. Me and my girlfriend were bullied because no one wanted us to be together. She was my everything but she left me just over a month ago. I have tried committing suicide 3 times in the last month. She was my everything. I have nothing to live for any more. And before someone says that I’ll find love again, I won’t. She was my one and only. She has torn my life apart. I hate my life. I want to die. I haven’t eaten in 4 days and haven’t slept in 3 days either. I have sat in my room for the past 3 weeks doing nothing and only left to go to the toilet. My parents say I need help. But I don’t like them any more. It was their fault that me and my girlfriend broke up. We promised that we’d spend the rest of our lives together. It’s been killing me seeing her talking to other boys knowing that it hurts me. I love her to pieces and have tried so hard to block these feelings out of my mind. but I just can’t do it any more. She was my air, and now I have no air. My life isn’t worth living. I can’t stop crying.
#1 – the harder you try to ‘block these feelings out’ of your mind, the further into the vortex you’re going to go. When you try to block your feelings, you’re thinking about your feelings, and only making it worse. You have to learn, you have to force yourself, maybe for only a few minutes at a time, to place your focus on something or someone else.
#2 – it may be your parents’ doing that caused your breakup, but you can pretty well trust that they have your best interests at heart – maybe they see something in your girlfriend that you don’t see, simply because you’re too close.
#3 – your girlfriend is deliberately doing things that hurt your feelings? Why in the hell would you want someone like that in your life?
I’ve been where you are, at the age that you are now. I’m not making light of what you’re going through, believe me. I was obsessed, like you are.
You can choose what you focus on during your day. If you keep focusing on your girlfriend, how much your life sucks, how bad things are, that’s where you’re going to stay.
I can’t say what pulled me out of where I was, what allowed me to go on. Part of it, I know, was that my former girlfriend moved away, far enough that I couldn’t follow easily or I would have. So I was involuntarily forced to focus on other things in my life, like work and the few hobbies I had.
I also discovered that there really are other girls out there. I also found out that other girls weren’t the least impressed by my “I feel sorry for myself, woe is me” attitude.
It took me a long time to get a date. But I finally did, and from there things just sort of snowballed. I found out other girls wanted to go out with me – I was just to blinded to notice them. I found out, much later, that I had wasted more than a few opportunities for romance 🙂
Ah well – water under the bridge.
No more platitudes, bud – get out and start getting over this person who’s hurting you. It ain’t going to happen overnight, and trust me, the feelings you have will never go away entirely. But you can live with them. You’re not the first that’s been thrashed this way, and you won’t be the last.
Get on with your life, quit feeling sorry for yourself. That’s the only advice I can give you, having been once where you are.
no matter what i will always be depressd because of my grandma and mom fighting my mom is starnge and yet im a child sort of? and it hurts so much i wnt to die i hate my life i cry so much i dont no what to do 🙁
o n im 13 ;( :O it isnt good for somone like from 18 and under to have o much deep depression inside it feels like its eating my soul away 🙁
Have you tried talking to your mom and grandma and telling them what their fighting is doing to you? Probably won’t do any good, but worth a try, yes?
Is there anyone at your school you can talk to? Counselor, school nurse maybe? Even if they’re not able to help you personally they might be able to point you to somewhere you can go or someone you can talk to that can help.
You may feel alone, but there are people out there who have devoted their lives to helping kids that are going through the same things as you. But they don’t know who you are – you have to reach out to them.
Take that one step – reach out to someone who can help you, who WILL help you. Don’t give up until you find them, either!
if u want sum1 to talk to i will.
20 million? Yikes.
Amazing that even in a country as wealthy as ours, for many we cannot find happiness in our time.
Alex Work
YourGoalBook.com
im sad 24/7 always feeling down, i am 18 and it has gone on since i was 14-15, i never seeked help i thought it would go away but it just eat away at me inside. i found myself drinking more smoking more weed like everyday all because keeping things bottled up inside just to keep everyone else happy but it is destroying me. suicide has been attempted and thought about, sometimes i have an ok day but thats usually when i have a bit of bud to kep me going but most days is like Meh. energy has gone and the outgoing boy i used to be isnt there anymore. i am afraid in a way for my life considering i now have heart problems but i never got it checked out because i think they will realised i am depressed and tell my old dear and what not which ithink will ruin my life if they realised y i was depressed. if anyone can kinda help or something id like that. or even just to talk to.
I am nineteen years old, and I’ve been depressed since well I’m not truly sure, maybe since my first semester of college in Fall 2010 or maybe that’s when I saw the glimpses of it. I’ve never been able to ask for help or get help. Ever since I was a little kid I have taken care of my siblings since they were born. I was changing diapers at age six, and never once did I complain, as a kid you see it as fun helping your parents take care of your new baby brother or sister.
I’ll admit my life hasn’t been some perfect superb life, but it also hasn’t been one resulting in beatings or drugs or anything like that. I have a good life with a family that loves me and cares for me. Yet I’m the teenage birth. The accident that happened. According to my grandparents, I’m the child they wanted and needed. My mom was fourteen.
I’ve never felt useless and alone until this past few months. It gradually just gets worse. I’ve talked to my mom and she’s only asked, “What reasons do you have to be depressed? I know I’m not the best mom, I know I can’t give you everything you want, but you don’t have any reason to be depressed!” I don’t ask for anything. I work my butt off. I’ve borrowed money a few times and have slowly paid it back.
When I showed her my cuts and asked for help she wouldn’t touch me. Instead she said, “Don’t do this. Do you want to be locked away?”
I don’t understand where all of my depression came from. I’ve messed up in college, made decisions that some teenagers make. I don’t smoke, or drink, or do drugs.
I use to love singing and writing. I’ve been in choir since my 6th grade year and was praised for my singing voice by all my music teachers. Yet now I start and then stop and think, “I’m horrible, I won’t get any where with this.” I start writing and stop and think the same thing.
I’m a florist at work, and a cashier, and a fuel attendant. I loved my job! Now, I wake up in the morning and think, “What’s the point? All my money won’t stay in the bank. Mom will ask for more again, or it’ll just disappear like always.”
I go to bed at 10pm and lay in bed till at least 1am trying to fall asleep. I wake up exhausted whether I get enough sleep, or too much, or not enough.
I hate myself, and I try to get up and change and I know I can’t do it by myself. Mom acts like she’s in denial, she can’t accept that her daughter, who she always relies on, needs help.
I feel like a defective daughter and granddaughter, a disappointment, a failure, as if I’ll never succeed. I feel like I bring more problems to my family than I’m worth.
My car broke this week, right when I got this great pay check for once in my life. A check that was going to stay in the bank! …Instead my papa was fixing my car and he said something about being sore from being on the ground trying to fix it. I felt awful because I know nothing about cars and I couldn’t help no matter what because I also don’t know the tools.
To me…its like having stupid reasons not to live, to be upset, to be sad, that applies to me.
I’ve helped some of my friends with their suicidal tendencies, I’ve had two boyfriends who both would cut.
I’ve thought of suicide before, I do a lot. I feel like there’s not any reason for me to exist. I open my mouth to speak and I’m dismissed, its like no one hears me. The room could be totally quiet at home, and no one listens or responds. I don’t exist most of the time. And no one cares if I did just disappeared, they would have more money right? Who cares if its just one less person in the world? Of course, I’ve always had the mind to think of the affect afterwards.
I don’t want to be another statistic. I want to be happy. I want to feel something instead of this misery. Sometimes I’m really happy during the day and then it comes and bites me in the butt later that night. It rips and tears at me as if it never happened, like I’ve been alone for years and years and always will be.
But even though I’m here typing this up now, even though I’m still forcing myself through day after day, I keep losing my point. If I wanted to, I could, and God do I want to. Of course that’s who comes up, God. Would he be disappointed, probably. Would my family make it, eventually. Would they be upset, probably. Would my mom and grandparents be okay, probably not. If it was the end now, it would have happened naturally, right? Or maybe I’m suppose to do it?
I just don’t want to feel useless anymore. I don’t want to be pointless and a disappointment.
Mary, I’m truly sorry to hear of your troubles.
All I can tell you is what I know: that your happiness and feelings are controlled by one person – you. If you allow what others may think (or what you think they may think) about you to influence how you feel about yourself, you’re not really being fair to YOU.
The best advice I can give is to pay attention to what YOU have control over, and do your best to ignore things you can’t control. You can’t control what other people think, say, or do. You may – MAY – be able to influence it in some cases, but you can’t control it.
You CAN control your money, but it sounds like that’s a by-product of your relationships – which you can also control. You just have to find the inner strength to do it, and I’m not going to shit you — it isn’t easy to do. You have to work at it, every day.
I hope you do find that strength, and the clarity of mind to know that because you are YOU, you are worth the world. It’s as simple, and profound, as that.
I wish you well, and the happiness that is yours if you choose it.
my girlfriend left me. i spent literally everyday making her happy as best as i could. im only a teen and yet i question whether or not i deserve 2 live. facebook destroyed my relationship. what happened was that i thought nothing of what i would post but apparently i didnt realize what i was saying. ive spent the last 5 months wishing i could talk 2 her again. i love her 2 death and would never do anything 2 harm her. since she left all i think about death and pain and hurting myself
Mason, here’s the best advice I can give you – from someone who’s been there: just make it through the day. Just today. Don’t worry about tomorrow, just today. Do the best you can to occupy yourself with other things and try not to think too much about your gf.
You won’t get over it easily, but you WILL get over it.
All of us fuck up. It’s just the nature of the beast. We say or do something that later we wish we hadn’t. But there’s no taking it back. Can’t climb on a time machine and fix it. So you can try, which you obviously have, and when you can’t fix it, you move on. One day at a time.
This article is so clear and completely true.i really liked it and im happy to find a such of article that help people in what they are looking to get out of depression and stand for a new start .thank for sharing that knwoledge with us .i have read an article that on this kind of subject and i liked it, may i share it with you
http://www.flowmagazine.gr/article/view/pws_na_ksanasikwtheite_meta_apo_lathos/category/personal_development
I’m a pretty young teen and I just don’t know what’s happening. It has been happening for about a year now and Im positive it will continue. Almost every day I feel helpless, hopeless, and I always think about death. What it’s like, if it would hurt or if it would make me happier. I always feel down and feel like I have no purpose to do anything. I’ve told one person about this but they told me it’s just a phase I’m going through. I hope they’re right because I can’t take this any longer. It needs to stop and I dont know what to do to help myself. Whether I need a psychiatrist or some type of medicine. Can someone please give me advice on how to fix this before it gets even more serious? Thank you kindly.
Brandon, are you still around and if so could you please tell us how you are and what you have done differently. I hope you have found happiness or the closest that we can ever hope to get to
I’m not contemplating suicide but I’m getting the feeling that I’m worthless I was engaged to a girl for three and. Half years she shone due to not being able to get along I can’t find a job I feel as if I am in a box im20 years old and I’m still living at home with my mom I want to be successful on my own and I want things to work with my fiancée but all it is is wants. They are needs as well but I feel like just giving up because nothing is working out for me and just feels overbearing but my faith will not even allow me to consider suicise
i am so mad @ myself for so much things all i do is cry my belly hurts my head i feel pain all over
i need help now but i dont know where to start i dont think anyone love me i have been tru alot in my life abuse in every ways no one listen to me i cry everyday from november until no & am not getting any better i went from doctor to doctor & nun of them can help feel pain in all over my body
I am a 30 year old, single black woman. I’ve never had kids. I’ve been pregnant 3X and had abortions each time bcuz my mother made me. I’ve been in all sorts of messed up relationships. The luv of my life cheated on me. we were together for 4 years until he gave me an STD and had a baby by the girl he cheated on me with. B4 that i was dating a guy for 2 years. I gave $1000 to this boy for a car, he then changed his number and avoided me after I gave him the money. Then I refused to date anyone for over 5 years, until I finally gave in to a guy 5 years my junior. He had the nerve to be violent, mentally abusive and crazy. He put me down, lowered my self esteem, ruined two cars: one he kicked and dented, the other he pulled the emergency brake while I was driving and screwed up my transmission. I just feel so alone! I have no real friends. They use me for rides or to “borrow” money that I never see again. My father is never around if I did want to talk. My mother doesn’t take me seriously. All she has to say is “Have you been taking your Meds”? I feel like I may never find the one, or a real true love at all. And I also feel like I will never have a true, loving friendship. Again I just feel so alone! I have taken antidepressants and been in counseling for 15 years! Something has got to give…I just graduated from college in May. I feel like I have no place on this earth without companionship
Thank you sharing this information so sensitively here. A devastating and often ‘hidden’ illness that often people live with low-grade depression for much of their child and adulthood, and don’t even know they have it until they feel better.
Or worse
My depression comes from complex PTSD. And everyday seems like a challenge. Of course I think about suicide everyday but realize morally it’s wrong and selfish. But, sleeping all day and staying up all night, only eating dinner, not staying motivated, and looking for apathy from my friends is a long tunnel of darkness with no light at the other end.
My story is this… As a child I was sexually abused by uncle numerous times. He would temp me by saying he has a gift or surprise for me. The first time he sexually abused me was on christmas eve and that’s when I started feeling angry and sad. I never told anyone about my abuse because I was embarrassed and ashamed. He made me feel like it was all my fault. That night, when I was only six years old I started sleeping in my sister’s bed. I peed her bed that night and was abused by my step-father for not being a man. He called me names such as arrogant prick, cocksucker, dumb ass and any other name in the book. My mother defended him that night saying he didn’t mean to throw and kick me into my room. I was tucked into bed by mother and woke the next morning not being surprised because my uncle destroyed my childhood by no longer believing in Santa by luring me in the attic telling me he wanted to show me the train set Santa got for me in the attic. On the morning of Christmas I peed my pants and again was kicked, slapped, and punched into my room. This Christmas memory always haunts my dreams throughout childhood, adolescents, and my young adulthood.
After this Christmas I was always abused from step-father mentally and psychically. Then a week during my summer vacation my uncle came to watch us because our baby sitter was going to Europe. My uncle molested and sexually abused me every day. The experiences were horrible and made me feel really insecure. He told me if I told anyone he would kill me and make sure that it was all my fault.
Ever since my uncle sexual abuse I was always angry and sad. Didn’t concentrate in school and always dreaded the bus ride home because my step-father would hit me and yell in my face calling me every name in the book. He would slam my head into the table if I spelled a word wrong. He would throw me from my chair at dinner if I didn’t like what we were having and then throw my dinner on the floor and tell me to eat it like a bastard or a dog.
I was always shy in elementary school and in middle school I was always getting in trouble. And in high school I was always bullied as a fag or gay. I was even bullied in the locker room by fellow peers by them holding me down and showing me their genitals telling me and taunting me that I’m a cock sucker. I didn’t have a normal childhood or adolescents. I always covered up what happened to me and never told anyone.
Just recently my girlfriend of two years broke up with me because a much older man found out my e-mail address and was stalking me on Facebook. To keep him from being discovered by my girlfriend, I made a fake e-mail address to keep it a secret. He was telling me that he wanted to jerk and blow me. I just relied back saying the same things but really didn’t want to meet him. I was just trying to keep him away by making those comments because he was much older than me, in his 50’s. He would say he saw me and that I was nice and good looking. I was scared, extremely terrified. Eventually the love of my life found the fake e-mail and broke up with me. I didn’t mean to do it, I was scared and confused. I was embarrassed and angry.
Throughout my young adult life I smoked weed every since I was 17. And started doing pills and kept it from everyone 6 months ago, even my girlfriend to cover up my pain. When that man would e-mail me I would smoke and pop a pain killer. I tried so hard not to think about the abuse and how this man was virtually stalking me. I just played along because that was my whole life. To play a secret game of never telling anyone anything and making it seem like I was happy.
After the break up I sought put therapy, medical attention, and psychiatric help. I no longer do drugs to cover up the pain, but the pain that hurts the most is how I hurt everyone around me and my ex girlfriend.
I’m beyond depressed, lonely, and learning how complex PTSD can inhabit the rest of my life but feel like it was all my fault. It will always be my fault that I destroyed the one who always cared about me, she was my life and bestfriend, and I ruined it with my confusion. I’ll always regret my life.
I didn’t
*I didn’t mean to hurt everyone and myself*
Brett talk to me please if you are around please… Hrd2comeby@aol.com
When I look at all these stories I feel like ‘What right do I have to complain? There are much worse situations. Stop being a crybaby and suck it up!’
But I can’t. I can’t stop complaining. I can’t stop feeling majorly offended at the slightest jokes. I can’stop crying at slightest conflict. I can’t walk beside attractive people even though people say I’m very pretty. I can’t read the depression symptoms without tears. I can’t type without tears blurring my vision. I can’t concentrate in class. I can’t be happy anymore!! I know I can but it’s sooooo HARD!!
What right do I have to express myself!? Lots of people feel this way?
I don’t even know how to write all I’m feeling so I’m leaving this comment on this website because I want to learn to smile!! When last have I smiled because I was happy.
I turned 16 October of 2012 and hope that I see 17 with a smile. I’m currently on my 7th year of depression and on my fifth year of suicidal thoughts. I’m from a christian country and we are very negative towards most things we hear on Western news like suicide and serial killings; not that Nigeria doesn’t have its own share of literal manslaughter and rural gore but I have no one to talk to.
When my mother forced my suicidal thoughts out of me to her she cried. I HATED seeing her cry. My father and his sisters ‘bullied’ my mom and she ran away with me and my brother: the only children. It wasn’t always this way. We all used to be very happy, until about a year ago and we ran away December last year. My mom NEEDS me. I’ve been her rock for the past year and I don’t want to leave her but sometimes waking up is so PAINFUL. I don’t want my brother to fail in school because he’s traumatized about the death of his sister just when he got his grades up.
But I really want to die. But the stupid thing is even when I think I hear noises in the dark I run. If I wanted to die I wouldn’t run. That in itself gives me hope that I still have a chance to live a happy life. I haven’t prayed in a while because I feel like I don’t deserve to pray to GOD because I focus on the negative and cast away the positive.
I want to kill myself before I kill anyone else.
I remember being eight and watching ‘Women Who Kill’ and other crime and Forensics shows and thinking: ‘people who kill are unforgivable monsters’. But now I have seen the error of my ways; those people weren’t monsters, they were human. I’ve had a horrible temper ever since I could remember. I pulled a girl’s pigtails cuz she ‘shared’ my food without my permission.
I was two then.
I want to kill those who offend me especially my roommate in university foundation who pissed me off in high school. In 11th grade I would draw myself killing people (in stickman form with no distinct form but there was a lot of blood). Whenever I got angry I’d clench my fists and shake them trying to control the rage I felt. Everyone other than my closest friends (which were 3 by the way) called me a monster. They ridiculed me. Made me feel worse. I know everyone has their feelings, heck I’m sure somebody wants to kill me too! I wouldn’t blame them. I think my purpose in life is to be an example to everyone of NOT to be.
Said roommate I mentioned would scream when she saw me. I don’t like her she’d always spout shit just cuz she knew I couldn’t take a joke and ridicule me for my anger. I just wish I wasn’t alive to see these problems sometimes.
I know that people say ‘be someone you’d be proud to know’. Well, I’d never even befriend myself. I’m scruffy, uncoordinated, not ladylike, talks a lot of random crap that always gets me laughed AT not with.
I know I don’t have it that bad because I KNOW I have an AWESOME figure and somewhat pretty. But all through 7th and 8th grade in my first school I was known as the UGLIEST. Crap looked even better than me. So I never bothered to comb my hair, ugly people don’t need it. I have a crappy walk step and some even say i’ll never get married! It hurts so much but I try not to let it show. I’m also a manga FREAK!! To a freaky level but it’s one of the few things in life that I look forward to.
I’m always afraid to dress up because I care too much about what people would say. When I tried to stand up for myself they would say “WHO TOLD YOU YOU HAD AN ATTITUDE!?” The girl slapped me when I pressed on. In 7th grade I said not in 8th. Then not in 9th. Then it went on till I graduated from High School. I really feel suicide would suit me. A worthless end to a worthless girl. How fitting. Although I’m intelligent I can’t concentrate in class anymore. I was the long distance star in high school (400 & 800) and a very awesome artist and writer. I want to study animation.
I don’t want to end up a serial killer but death is always on my mind. I know that there are people that care for me like one of my best friends who said if I did he’d bring me back from hell and kill me himself. I love him.
I don’t want to go, but living as a piece of shit who can’t keep her tears down and feelings controlled is taking a toll on my heart. Sometimes my chest and body hurt so much i want to swallow shredded blades just to numb the pain. I’m tired of being stupid, I want help. I never learned proper etiquette and am quite the slob because I told myself I have to learn to want to live before anything else.
How am I going to go to college like this? How am I going to get married like this? Will my children love a shittard like me. I’ve gotten so many insults I now believe I am nothing just so I don’t feel heartbreak. But it doesn’t work.
Please help me. Please. Please. I want to live beside my mother. I want to smile again. For real. I love the friends I’ve made but my inferiority hinders my living.
I think I’ll copy and paste this on my laptop because truth is I want a friend to talk to; but who wants to talk to a Psychopath or someone who is death obsessed?
Reading this article/post, then reading all the commentary and entries, i can’t help but feeling even more depressed than i already am. I’ve been depressed for so long now that it seems normal. Like this is just how life is supposed to feel. I know it’s not, but thats just how it feels to me. So many thoughts are running thru my head as i write this… I don’t even really know what to say. My life is absoutely miserable. I hate everything. I’m sad all the time and have contemplated a million different ways of ending my life.
I wasn’t always like this. I used to be the happiest friendliest person in the world. Nowadays, i pretend to be happy or ok just so people will leave me alone and not ask questions. I have a son that i love but hardly ever see or speak to. His mom hates my guts. We were together for 5 years and i loved her with all my heart and soul, still do. I got arrested and had to serve a year in jail when my son was 2 and a half (He’s 7 now). In that time i lost everything, family, friends, my girl, my son, my home… basically everything i knew and loved or cared for. I haven’t been the same since.
I’ve been free since 2009 and have stayed clear of the things i used to do that got me in trouble, thinking that would help me but it hasn’t. In fact life is so much more difficult now that i don’t even know what to do. I have a criminal record (and btw when i got arrested i was trying to get some money together to do something special for my then girlfriend/sons mom for her birthday) so it’s extremely hard to find a job. I almost never eat anything and am basically skin and bones. I don’t have any friends or anyone to talk to so i stay to myself pretty much all the time. I live with my mom, her boyfriend and my younger brother. I’m a grown man and feel completely worthless because i can’t even provide for my son (who i rarely see anyways) or help support my family. I want to die so bad and be done with it but i’m too cowardly, at least for now, to do it myself. I know this must sound so pathetic and it is. But everything inside me has given up.
Most days i stay in my room and don’t speak to anyone i live with. I wanna cry all the time and fight back tears because i don’t want them to see me looking weak. Smh i wish i had a gun, i’d just do it and get it over with. To anyone reading this who is or has ever contemplated suicide because your life is miserable and depressing, i feel your pain and wouldn’t even try and talk you out if it.
People always say, oh… you shouldn’t think like that or you have so much to live for or think about how many people will be hurt if you do that, well guess what? No one is thinking about how much i suffer every single day. LIVING IS TORTURE and i’m anxious for it to be over. God forgive me but i swear everything i’ve said is the truth. I don’t even care anymore…
Dear Wendell,
I’m not going to say that I understand how it feels to have lost my home, spouse, son and other things that came along with that because I have never been through that.
However I absolutely understand that dreadful feeling of losing my happiness and everything around me. I spent at least three and a half years with a deep chronic depression. I understand how you feel when you say that life is torture and you just want it over with. I know that life seems horrible right now, but believe it or not my years with depression were also some of the best years of my life. You know why? Because I saw a different aspect of life. I saw how horrible it can feel. I understood it. I look back on those years and I say I am absolutely much happier that that happened to me.
What happened to you, happened for a reason! Everything you know has fallen apart, but only so something even better can fall together! Something far beyond your imagination.
Now that your doors are closed, you must open new ones. You have fallen, but you better get back up and when you do, you will be stronger then you ever were in this lifetime.
Now that the world has shown you what harm it can do, you take that harm and you smack the world back in its face. You say YOU DON’T KNOW ME AND YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT I’M CAPABLE OF!!!!!
You set yourself a goal and you say I’m going to do it, just to prove to everyone and myself how amazing I am. You release your inner ambitions and you say I AM WORTH SO MUCH MORE THEN THIS!!!!
YOU SAY I AM NOT GOING DOWN WITHOUT A FIGHT!!!!! I WILL TURN MY LIFE AROUND!!!! AND NOT JUST FOR ME, BUT FOR MY SON, MY MOTHER, MY BROTHER, THE WORLD!
I WILL GET A JOB AND YOU KNOW WHAT? I’LL EARN SO MUCH MONEY I CAN SUPPORT MY MOTHER AND MY SON!
Your life can be so much different from now, if you just say I’m happy with my life. It’s ok that all of these bad things happened because this is what was supposed to happen. Life is like this, but if you look at life and say “I don’t care if there are diseases, homelessness, deaths, earthquakes, relationship break ups” then you will be happy because you know that after a hurricane comes a rainbow. This is when you know if you get hit, you won’t care because you won’t get hurt. Bad things in life happen so you are able to appreciate the good things in life.
The world will never be perfect, but if you move yourself in the right direction then the world is already a better place.
In order to do this you’re going to have t step up your game and set your goals. Try doing exercise and going running a couple times a week. And when you set a goal, you tell yourself I will never give up until I accomplish this goal. And when things don’t go the way you want them to, or if you do fail a goal, you know that it’s ok. It’s not the end of the world. You can ALWAYS try again, or try something fen better. You don’t give yourself any limits, because there isn’t any. If you say you want to be senator, you better go for it. If you say you want to go to a university you better work for it. If you say I want to be the fastest person alive, then you better run for it! Or if it’s something as simple as supporting your family then you do it. You do it the right way and you give it your all. You never give up.
Now..the first step is learning to love yourself because if you can’t love yourself then you can’t love anyone else and no one can love you. So do just that, love yourself with all of your heart and soul. And believe it or not, but I love you too. I love you too because I have learned to love the world and you are a big part of this world. But first I began with loving myself. So now I have given you all of my secrets and I hope you use them wisely.
Sincerely, Daniela
Wendell, I care. I have been feeling really horrible lately and I was just looking up some sites for depression and I came across this very nice but very sad site.. we all have our stories of Horror and despair. I have my own. But I hope that you are around and are doing okay ever ever want to talk contact me at hrd2comeby@aol.com
I’ve been depressed for a week now,and its just getting worst.I cannot eat,sleep and do anything.This depression is from the break up of me and the my ex fiance.I love him so much,and its the first time i ever felt like this.But he left me on this kind of situation,he just flew back home at Florida.Im so fed up and so much pain in my heart,depression is killing me.Im doin all my best though,but it doesn’t work.I haven’t eat for almost a week now,and vomitting for nothing.Chest pain is gettin worst and i cannot sleep.I’ just waiting to end this shit,my life sucks.
A week? Whatever shall you do? You poor thing you. I watched, with my own two eyes, the woman who brought me into this world take her last few gasps of air right in front of me and that was it. Her body lay motionless and lifeless as the cancer had done its part and claimed yet another victory. It seems like it happened yesterday which, in fact, it happened twenty four years ago. February 7, 1989 at around seven a.m. Life hasn’t been the same since and will never be the same. The charade of being in a good mood and acting like a happy and positive individual diminished around the time I was 24. I’m terribly sorry for your predicament and just to hopefully give you some comfort there will be someone to come along and sweep you off of your feet and you will totally forget about that a$$hole who left you. I have been constantly in and out of relationships due to the fact that no matter who I meet and I think “this is the ONE!” that they get sick of me and my bipolarism and my negativity and violent outbursts. I haven’t physically hurt anyone except maybe myself. Punching the fridge or bashing my head in a wall or breaking a door off of its hinges and beating the crap out of my passenger seat in my car(by myself of course)in an empty parking lot or even in traffic is one thing I catch myself doing a lot. I hate waking up everyday and I hate going to work everyday and I hate everything about being in society. I have friends but most of them live in another city or state so either a monthly phone call or a weekly text(most of the time with no response back)is how I stay communicated to let them know I’m still alive. I have an older brother and two older sisters who all live in totally different states. I live in the same city as my dad and he is 77 and what a blast to be around. Lemme tell you. I have a 17 year old cat that I have had since he was four weeks old and he is my best friend right now. I also have a five year old boy and he is my reason to wake up and go to work everyday. When I get to work though, that is when I wish I didn’t exist. I’ve had more than 60 jobs and have been working since I was 15 years old. I’ve wound up quitting most of them basically saving them the time and breath from having to fire me. I’ve only been fired five times and even that feels like an accomplishment. I haven’t ever been in jail. I don’t do drugs. I don’t drink anymore. I quit smoking. All of this just so I can watch this little angel of mine grow up and hopefully not end up in the same boat as me. I’ve tried antidepressants and church and Jesus and all of that other “feel good” bullshit. None of it works. If someone ever held a gun to my head I would probably just say “please do it. You’ll be doing me a huge favor.” I do hope for your sake that you find someone else and can move on and are able to find happiness. Depression is painful and I wish it on my worst enemy. Simple as that. By the way, I’m 43 years old. I hope you don’t ever find yourself in the same situation as me. Take care of yourself.
I’ve seen multiple councelers throughout my life since childhood and never felt like I was getting any help or reliefe. I have really bad depression that I experience the feelings of suicide but wont atempt it do to my religion. I’m very sleepy that I’ll sleep all day and nite. I have no interest n anything especially n activitys that I enjoyed doing. I feel useless and living on disability doesnt help that feeling. When people treate me like I’m a breakable really breaks my spirit. I’ve experienced many traumas throughout my life but I dont know if that would have anything to do with my problems now. I’ve become numb to seeing any councelors because I’ve become so irritated with counceling that I feel like they dont help at all. Lately I’ve become a little hostile when somebody even mentions counceling cause I feel they just want to pump me full of medications just like the doctors want to always do.
I believe that if you have been diagnosed with depression (i.e. Major Depressive Disorder etc) and therapy isn’t working then a new approach is needed.
I have had success in coaching with clients who have long-term depression. I’ve found it’s better to move away from the therapeutic focus of “delving deeper”, which really only takes you in circles. I truly believe a more effective treatment for depression is being mentored to take action to improve your life on a regular, structured basis that you measure objectively.
Confidence is the best medicine for depression
I feel as if someone was sitting on my chest. A knot in my throat. As if I was trap in my own body: like I’m fighting with my self. I’m extremely hopeless and beaten. The real world has beaten me and I feel too weak to fight. In addition, I’ve lost all hope in humanity; humans are a species that takes pleasure in seeing their peers suffer.
I know most of the things I say are not completely truth… But, I don’t know. I just feel so rotten and lonesome.
I cant believe how acurate your comment is ….. its as if you read my mind 🙁
I live in South Africa and although they claim to have public facilities to help those who cannot afford the help , it really is a total waste of time. I am currently trying desperately to get medical aid so that I can get the help I need but I feel like I may just drop dead before that. Its becoming so hard for me to get out of bed and get dressed to come to work . My life stinks in every possible way. I have carried around this pain and deadness in me for so many years its become apart of my life. I would love so much to just die , I am so tired of everything and everyone . I hate it when people think that you can just pretend like everything is okay and the depression will go away . I have tried all of that and I still feel like crap . I cant sleep or if I do sleep its just for a little while . I feel so run down , my entire body aches. I cant remember things anymore . Its beenone thing after another in my life ever since I was a little girl . I have actually heard people say things like ” she shouldnt be depressed she so beautiful , what does she have to worry about ” What kind of stupid thing is that to say to someone ??? Depression doesnt choose who it wants to torment , I sure as hell didnt ask for my life to turn out the way it did . I just want to feel like a normal person again , I cant go one wishing I was dead and thinking of ways to kill myself . No matter what I have endured through the years the one thing I always managed to do was to keep on fighting but right now I feel so sacred , I feel like my body and mind are about to shut down and there is nothing I can do to stop it …….
I just want to crawl into a dark whole and die 🙁
I am a Christian and have been very depressed lately about a lot of things. I just found this blog and my heart wept for each of you. I prayed for each of you on this blog and this scripture was given to me for you and for myself.
Isaiah 60:1
Arise, shine, for your light has come,
and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you.
I’am 11 and I have these symptoms of depression. I just want help… even my parents don’t help most of the time… My world is dead.
Justin
Oh my goodness!!
You’re too young to feel depressed but i know many people of all ages feel depressed. It makes my heart hurt that you are feeling depressed at your age. My son is 11. I would die if i knew my son went online looking for help about feeling depressed!! He knows he can always talk with me about anything. If you feel that you cant talk with your parents, please tell a teacher! Tell another family member. They might ask you why do you feel depressed and you might not know exactly why, you just do. Or you might know exactly why you feel depressed. Gosh, please dont feel that your world is dead.
I hope you get this reply and i hope you reply back to me. I hope you’re ok justin.
Sending you hugs young man. ?
Justin, please hang in there. I know that things can look pretty sad and bleak. My Depression started when I was 13 years old and has never stopped. I do feel a little better about my life but I don’t want to tell you that it will get better. I mean it can. But for me nothing really helped. But you are still young please don’t give up. Tell somebody tell anybody that will listen to you please. You still have a chance. Please let us know if you are feeling better or how you are feeling whatever it is let us know please.
I have all 9 symptoms .. only thing keeping me alive, is my extremely high intelligence. i’ve been thinking about jumping in front of a train, cutting myself, hanging myself ..etc, but then it scares me that if i don’t die and i end up being paralized instead? that’s only thing keeping me from killing myself. I even had a gun at some point, but then i started thinking of those cases where someone gets shot in the head and survives. worst than death, is when you survive being paralized.
i don’t know how to ask help, cuz everyone who knows about it, just call me lazy and think that i want attention. keeping to myself .. and ppl start whining at me like “ohhh whats wrong with you, why so sad, stop being like that”. it makes me furious and sometimes i want to kill their entire family, burn down their house and everything else they have and then look them in the face and say “oh hey, why so sad? why don’t you smile”.
it fucking pisses me off how people think of “us”, the depressed people. some might care for a moment, for a day, or week or even a month, but then they get tired and no longer understand and want me to do something i know i can’t do … help myself, that’s something i can’t do. If i could, i would not be depressed.
i hate this world, i really do. i have money and i’m somewhat famous, i run a website and make youtube videos for living, but it doesn’t make me happy. it keeps me from burning my house down or killing my neighbours. all my relationships go to shit with girls, cuz they don’t understand me. they want time and space and all that other bullshit which i can’t give them, i just stop trying and then they think i don’t care.
I have no idea why i even looked up depression, i just did and found this article and since i have nothing better to do, i thought i’ll leave a comment on how i feel and how bad this really is.
I feel the same exact way.
I am a 57 year old female, was married and have 2 wonderful girls ages 41 and 31. Also have 3 grand children and 2 sisters my Mother and a large family. What’s so hard to figure out is why I feel so alone and unloved and unwanted.
I know I an depressed was not diagnosed officaly until 1998. I indeed self medicated way before this with pot and other over the counter drugs. Probably when employers started to drug test I went to a doctor for help and so I could keep my job. Even though these meds helped 1 of the 2 prescriptions are now looked down upon. I functioned well before and after seeing the doctor. I was married and my kids needed me. As ny kids grew older was when my problems began, it was like my bad behavior was fillig the need to be needed.
I started to gamble which has lterally all but destroyed my life. This did not happen suddenly but over a period of years.
When I got divorced and moved out of the state where I lived I moved back home with my parents, all was fairly good for a few years.
Situations happened and I started going to a local mental health care for help.
Within 4 years they had me on 17 different meds. Not only was my depression gone so was I. Simply checked out of life I had no feelings went back to gambling to the point my Mother insisted I go to rehab which was a blessing because I finally got some real medical help. Was weened of all the meds and found out I also suffer from a over active thyroid. By this time my actions and the way I had treated my family and friends the damage was done.
It’s been 10 years now don’t gamble ever, don’t misuse any meds whether legal or illegal.
However my family doesn’t look at this as a medical issue a sickness. I am not sick I am just a drug addict and a gambler still. Never forgiven.
I live alone have lost everything lay around the house 24/7. Never get calls of visits from family or friends. The loneliness is unbearable.
I do not consider suicide because I am a coward. I just want a end to the emptiness. I never look forward to anything find any pleasure.
I am afraid to go back to get help from anywhere because I never want to be like I was when I was so medicated that I had no feelings and basicaly set around and drooled.
I just want to smile again.
I am a believer. I believe in God. I believe He will not give us more than we can handle and when He does, He is calling us home to be with Him. In His loving arms He will still be a loving, forgiving God and be the One to wrip our tears away and make us whole again. Life is hard, life is a struggle, it became that way after the fall of the Garden of Edam. Life as we have it, with it’s pain, suffering, obligations and hurts is not what God intended for us. God wants better for us and He always has.
After this I’m done. I’ve pushed everyone I love away including my kids and I can’t help ir. I’m so exhausted from fighting to stay alive. A bunch of pills will do. I don’t see a way out. Being hated is the worst feeling in the world. My head is numb. I keep passing out. Not everyone is meant to Win. 44 years old and my life is over. I’m scared but I know it has to be done. This way the misery for everyone stops. None of them have to deal with me
Some people think I’m nuts. Because I use humor as a tool in dealing with my pain. I have suffered from very severe depression for most of my life. No therapy or medication has ever helped. So I have had to learn to accept the fact that I am depressed, and probably always will be. As many times as I have heard the phrase “balance in all things”, it just doesn’t seem to sink in.
Life is not fair. Not because people aren’t fair, but because “life” is not fair. And as many times as I have seen people who have it so much worse than me, it does not serve as consolation, only as an example of how things could be worse.
The amount of pure joy that someone can experience in any one given moment in time always seems to be overshadowed by some sort of worry, fear, anxiety, or regret, which in turn always takes away from the intended effect of what that joy “should” represent, which consequentially minimizes the potential of the full understanding of what joy is supposed to be about. This exasperates the whole condition of depression by causing us to call into question our own judgment.
Additionally, the amount of fear, anxiety, pain, and even agony that a person can experience in any one given moment in time, seems to have …no limit. Infinitely boundless.
In short, …there is no “balance” in life to someone who suffers from depression. Only hardship. So, the next time you interact with someone using an approach incorporating anything less than kindness, love, and compassion, be aware! Think again. Think about doing unto others ….as you would have others do unto you. Because the extent of your pain, .….may not even compare ……to the pain of others.
Bad things happen all by themselves. Good things have to be made to happen. And a day without “agony” …is a good day.
Im having troubles with myself…i feel killing myself.Everything is not going well with my life.My bestfriend just end our friendship..My parents are getting divorce.My grade dropped..Please help me.I can’t…im just a young human…I don’t have friends…all of my “friends”…turn their back to me..My family are dealing with the debt that my father created..and he cheated on my mother..i have a lot of sympathy on my eldest brother..he can’t have a degree because of my father debt..anyone please give advice..i cant with the stress….
Just tell me 1 one that approx how much time it takes to kill a person through depression?
I don’t know what’s depression is all about. But I do feel very lonely,empty, worthless . And actually dont have any solution to any of my problems. And know quite nicely that killing oneself is no solution rather it will add to the problem. When i was going through all the above comments I could feel the pain of each and everyone. Please do let me know if I could be of any help to anyone as I really want to spend my life in helping mankind rather than continuing with the feeling of being unworthy.
hey friends i habe same thing ..some time when i am sleeping ..my heart beats so fast and hard ?? what should i have to do??
Steve
I cannot convey in words the amount of grief that we both felt when my mother broke us up. And I cannot convey the amount of grief I felt when you not only descovered other girls, but got married to one. We screwed up exponentialy because someone else did not want us together. A lesson learned. But a painful one.
I have loved you every minute of every day. You were my world back then. I just wish I could have told you.
There is no help. No one will help you unless you are a victim or a woman. You can’t get help. They won’t return your calls, give you an appt., nothing. No matter what you try, unless you become a victim, no one will help you and you may die.
The fact is is that the psychiatric system was created to throw away people who cannot handle the statist system (the mixed economy) that the US has become.
I’m about to die because I can’t get help for trauma and depression. In fact I’m gonna go kill myself right now.
Hey you alive man?
Hey there im facing the same problem too
The person i loved so much hates me now
I am going through depression right now?
Any suggestions?
I was thinking bout creating a facebook group chat where we share our problems
Reply with your email adress below i will create the group
I pretty much have everything on that list for depression. I’ve been living with depression for about 3 years now, I’m only 15, barely staring life and I’m just in high school. I never really told anyone about it, I mean.. I did but they just didn’t understand. I’m not really sure how my depression started, I just remember feeling this uncomfortable wave come over me then things started changing for me A LOT. I think it may have started due to my parents always arguing everyday or just something. All I know is that I’m not myself anymore. My grades starting dropping because I couldn’t concentrate In class, feeling uncomfortable always like someone is judging me or something yet there isn’t. I always tend to aviod eye contact, stutter a lot, and wanting to just go home and forget about everything. I don’t eat, but then sometimes I eat a lot more than I should, I don’t really check my weight so I’m not sure if im losing or gaining weight from this. I always feel alone and tend to cry a lot, like I’ll literally be with a crowd of people and feel lonely or something. I always think of negative thoughts and I don’t seem to get motivation from anything. Like i used to love drawing and playing video games or hanging out with my friends but now I just feel like staying in my room all the time and just lay there on my bed. I don’t go without a day of thinking of killing myself some way or some accident happening to me that is fatal, yet I’m not the type of person to do that to myself no matter how bad. I just feel so horrible, worthless, a disease, like I’m just some waste of space. I always think my friends are talking behind my back or my family is disappointed in me. I usually cry randomly or just feel sad all the time, I really hate the feeling of it. I tried once talking to the school consular but In the end she didn’t help me at all, she just told my parents and you know what they did? I got home and they just thought i was psycho and they said they were gonna send me to saint marrys (which is a church school for girls who stay there till they’re 18 because they’re “unstable” or need to be “cleansed”) and they took everything from my room they thought i could kill myself with. I felt so betrayed from that consular and I started to get even more depressed from it and more suicidal than i already was. However that day my mom and her partner argued again and my mom dragged me a long with her like she usually does to some family members place or something, she always done it ever since i could remember as a younger child. Today I’m still struggling to live and bare this suffering I’m dealing with. I lash out out at my mom since she’s bipolar and she tends to get mad at me quick then go love up her partner (well new one now) and that leaves me to be depressed and angry all day while shes all happy and such. I really don’t know what to do anymore, i know a lot of people say “pray to god” or “oh. Well it will get better soon”, I don’t really believe in god because why would he let me suffer like this? (Please don’t say god is the only way, i just dont really believe in him for various reasons.) I’m barely starting life yet i just wanna take my own, and i will not get better. I’m really forgetful and i tend to be slow a lot, i used to be able to walk at a normal pace and remember everything now i just cant.
The only reason I’m still here breathing is because of my friends I’ll be leaving behind and i know how people will react when im gone, yet i cant help it.
I scanned your post, and there’s a couple things I can identify with… about being a waste of space, and randomly crying (although with me, it’s different. I cry because I know I’m not doing anything for God). Have you tried speaking to a Pastor (I’m not talking about some Catholic priest, I mean a genuine born again Pastor). And if that doesn’t work, try asking God for help? (and yes, I’m being serious). God knows you inside and out; He knows the exact number of hairs on your head. There is NOTHING that you can’t tell Him about yourself that He doesn’t already know. Try it. and then after so much time, come back and tell us how great your life is.
i tried talking to mental health and they called the police on me. how shit is that. i only wanted to seek help and i felt like i was just pushed away like a piece of shit .peace out see you in the next life.
I’m fifteen and have struggled with deppresion for over four years now. I have countless suicide attempts, I drink and take pain killers to drown out the pain. Lately everything is getting worse, I’m drifting again and I’m starting to go insane. When I was seven my mom told me she slept with 13 guys and my parents got a divorce. After that i was raped by my uncle, the same one my mom cheated on, and I didn’t tell anyone for a long time. At at age of 9 my best friend started saying I should kill myself, then my dad got a girlfriend and she called me a worhtless b**** at the age 11, then she beat me and told the cops I thew water on her and I was almost arrested. When I was 13 I overdosed and was in the mental hospital for 3 weeks. I was told to fake it till I make it but didn’t know that was going to be my downfall cause as soon as I did that I went home cutting myself and abusing substancs. I can’t cry anymore. I’ve been up for 6 days now and I want to run….. I can’t escape…. Everyone I talk to doesn’t want to help me anymore who do I turn to?
Have you tried asking God for help?
I’ve never had to deal with depression before… EVER! But lately; probably the last 2 months or so, I’ve been feeling more and more depressed. I’m not gonna say I’m OVERLY depressed like some, but I’ve been somewhat depressed for a couple of reasons. The first is, I met this lady over Facebook. We discovered that our Christian beliefs were pretty much the same and we became instant friends. I’ve never met her, but I know I love her like my own Sister. Anyway, I know she’s dealing with Family issues right now, but for the last couple of months, we just haven’t connected like we used to. We still talk and love each other, but it’s not the same. And the devil is constantly putting thoughts in my head like, she doesn’t love me anymore or she’s not the person she says she is (which in my heart, I know she is). And I’ve just been stupid enough to believe the devil’s lies! I don’t know why I love her so much considering I’ve never even met her, but I do. And part of me wishes I didn’t, cause it would kill me to lose her as a friend. And the slight depression is because of me believing those stupid lies!
The second reason is even more important that the first. I am 43 years old. I am a Christian. I went to Bible School about 15 years ago, and of course I pray, but to actually DO something for God, I haven’t done anything!! Everytime I would think of me not doing anything for God, I would always end up crying. In this past week, I’ve cried ALOT! and this is coming from a girl who could never cry growing up! I’m sitting in my room for the last several days watching “Different Strokes” and playing “Candy Crush.” My life is pathetic. And as a Christian, that just shouldn’t be. I’m no where near as depressed as some, I might be slightly depressed, but that’s it.
Anyway depressed or not, I was just wondering if anyone knew what I should do to get out of the state I’ve been in for the last while.
Hey I’m just been like this pretty much since I was 12 I don’t think I could hold on but I’m trying and my biggest issue at the moment is trying to stick around and have a relationship with God and the worst part is finances. I’ve tried to make a YouTube channel but putting myself out there when there is nothing to show or share makes me feel even more shitty. I posted videos of how ugly the world is and if you could please help me by subscribing it would be appreciated. Search for Gray you’ll find me . I’m the girl with ruby/red hair and a smile hiding pain in a blue top. I’m trying and I just recently started
I have been suffering through severe depression for almost as long as 2 years. I’m very in love with my best friend, she’s been there with me through hell and back. I love her oh so dearly for the past 8 years I been there for her through thick and thin, did a lot for her and even treated her like she’s my girlfriend. But now I feel like I completely lost her and I have been smoking weed and under the influence of coke. I’m only more and more depressed when I don’t talk to her or when I think that we’ll never have a future together because her personality is keeper. My depression makes me drive in the canyons more, driving pure recklessly because the pain inside of me is forcing me to press the gas pedal harder. I don’t know what to do anymore to honestly just die. I always have been a person with the biggest heart, and I always am the one to get hurt first. Maybe I’m better off being dead than to live a life without her. I know there’s plenty of other girls but I don’t wanna keep hunting and hunting when she’s already proven me she’s wife material.
I’m 16 years old and I know that I’m depressed. I send messages to my friends about my problems but it seems like they’re too busy studying (we’re not in the same school anymore, actually). But what hurts more is when they don’t give any small advice about my problem and will only text/chat me when they’re in need.
I’m 16 years old and I always cry every night. More than 2 hours sometimes. A while ago, I started to share my condition with the 2 of my friends while we were in a restaurant. As I started describing my situation, I cried in ever words that I spoke. Just thinking about the problems at home made me cry that I don’t even want to talk about it.
I am 16 years old and I never told anyone the full story of my sadness. I wish someone will listen. I wish someone will care.
im here for you do you have fb?
Three weeks ago I also was pretty depressed. Honestly I think I have been depressed most of my life. Ever since I started school I was bullied. Physically, mentally , cyber etc. that didn’t set me off to well commit suicide. Three weeks ago I tried to Commit Suicide. Now before anyone thinks that I’m going to do it again STOP. I was pretty depressed like the hole I was in was never going to go away. I still am having problems with that day. Now I have nightmares every night because of what I did. Yes I do hate myself for doing that. I have parents that sometimes just go a little over board with yelling at me , and there’s every thing else in my life. Sports usually got me to forget about depression, but every time I wasn’t playing , I was down. Didn’t want to eat anything what so ever and , now I’m so scared to fall asleep as well as just to remember things because that comes back. Since before I did that it took a lot to hide everything from family, friends , or just people that tried to get under my skin. Since then It doesn’t take but just one comment about me or bringing up that day that sets me off crying and not wanting to do anything what so ever. I am waiting for softball to come back around, but every time I’m down now I’m thinking about death. I almost died that day , and I remember passing out . I also remember having a dream about going to the light , feeling peace where nothing is worrying you. Nothing is yelling at you stressing you out because of grades. Or because you don’t have any real friends. Everyday I am fighting to get through this , but everyday I get shut down again once more. I keep remembering how it felt to feel peace during what ever that was. And it hurts me because I won’t feel that ever again until I’m dead. Now what really makes me feel so sad is that yo I try to make everything right for everything else , or people but deal inside your the one in pain. And the only thing that sometimes helps is just trying to help others. I AM I SICK OF FEELING THSI WAY ? Of course I am, but this is life right ? I may be depressed all the time now I think but at least I fight it hoping that one day it will go away. That the dream I had when I went unconscious, and the mementoes I had of that day, and those three days in the hospital. I this has reached me one thing , that would have to be live your life. Your life is a one deal . Yes you may be in pain , but you may not know but you do have people out there that really care for you. I didn’t think I did until after I did that. I may still have those thoughts of doing again , but I’m fighting those thoughts. I take it one day at a time. It is still a little too much, but I’m working on it. I mostly commented on here to tell my self this. Maybe to you too. But mostly to myself to know that it’s okay I will get well soon hopefully .
I feel like im in a dangerous state of mind right now because I want to die and I don’t want to work anymore. I’m not happy with my job. I want to quit but I don’t have another one. I feel stuck. I’m too tired to work. I don’t want to eat. And I feel like I have been eating less than usual. I feel lonely and I have no one to go to literally. Except Jesus and god but that’s it. I’m in physical pain. And I have muscle weakness. I feel sick all the time. It’s horrible. I don’t want help I just need to express myself. I don’t want medication because I feel it’s useless and I won’t take it anyways. I don’t want a counselor I wish I had a friend to talk too and I wish I had someone to comfort me. I read a lot of comments and I feel like I can relate to everyone here and I will pray for everyone as well. Oh yeah and I’m always dizzy. And it’s annoying and it won’t go away. I feel like the dizziness is permanent. I don’t know what to do. I don’t like my job because management is getting on my case now and I’m always in trouble. And it makes me upset because now I don’t want to work because of it either. If there’s someone out there that’s looking for a friend I can be a friend or someone to talk to because I know what’s its like to be lonely. I been lonely my whole life. I’m a loving caring person and I’m looking to find someone else that is like minded. Also my family is no help either they always talk about their problems and they make me miserable. And they are mean to me. And people at work are mean to me. No one cares at work or my family doesn’t I feel alone and that’s why I’m depressed. I felt like I have dealt with people who were mean to me. And it makes me not want to be around people. I feel like running away and never coming back. I feel like going away from everyone.
I know exactly how you feel. I believe this dizziness is anxiety. I felt the same way until they prescribed me clonazepam.
Hi,
I think now you need someone who cares and understand how you’re feeling and I think I can relate to it… You can contact me if you need any support… Wishing all the best from a friend… Hoping a reply ….
I don’t know how to get myself back. My daughter with borderline personality disorder has moved it and taken over. All my stuff is dumped all throughout the house, getting ruined. She breaks all my stuff, and verbally and mentally tears me down everyday, all day. Things get physical too. I’m locked in the small room, as she took my room. She kicked by boyfriend out a few weeks ago, which completely left me helpless as I have panic disorder w/agoraphobia. She’s buying $470.00 tennis shoes, while I’m going to food banks. She has pushed EVERYONE OUT of my life. Everyone me is tired of getting calls from me when she hurts me.so since she won’t leave, I have too. I can’t call the police on her, I’m her mom. Besides the suicide threats from her over anything from her friend not texting her back to me asking her if she wants an apple. She is constantly screaming at me telling me what a loser I am, and why did I ever have kids if I was going to be such a peice of s…..? I’m am tired of the pain. I’m on morphine for my torn shoulder, but I end up taking more everytime she hurts me. My only friend died, and recently lost my mom to cancer. I truly have Noone. I ask God every day, just let me die. I’m a 42 yr old woman. My daughter is 26.
I also have been through the same feeling.. But one day although dramatically I decided to consult a psychiatrist…In my personal experience only me and my doctor knows about it and one of my personal best friend..I also thought about the ridicule… But it never happened…so I encourage you to consult a doctor.. I think both a psychiatrist’s and a therapist’s can together contribute well….wishes from a friend…..
Im not good at writing but ill try..
I try my best to keep my head up and always put that smile on my face…. but sometimes it hard to hold that smile, and tears slowly come pouring down my eyes… there are times when i feel like i had enough and just give up and say my good byes…. But im still holding on that hope that maybe one day everything will get better..
Im 32 with 3 beautiful daughters… I’ve been with my wife for more than 10 years and shes my world my queen my everything…. but for the past 2 years our relationships has been going down hill… dont really want to go on with details… but soon we are going to be moving to our own separate homes,, yes we are getting separated…. everything is going to be okay we are best friends and we don’t hate each other she said…. but she doesn’t know how much sadness i have in me..and that sadness became my depression now that depression is slowly telling me just sleep and hope to never wake up…….
my wife and my kids is all i have in this world and soon things will change…. i just dont want to be alone.. im scared that one day ill come home and no one is around and maybe that hope that im holding is no longer there.. then maybe thats the day that i would go to sleep and never wake up….. (sleeping pills)
Just lost my girlfriend i feel like crap all i wanna do is go see her and hangout with her but that cant happen because she blocked me on everything we have been dating over 3 years but now i cant see her i miss her so much she means the world to me i wish we would of never broke up and got into stupid arguments we were most of the times of and on and she always came back but this time i feel like she will never come back to be with me its makes me so sad i cry every day i cry myself to sleep to i haven’t ate in 6 days i wish to die already then to feel this pain i hate this pain i pray everyday hoping to see her tomorrow or soon i love and miss her alot we always said this to eachother i love you babe forever and always infinity and beyond i miss those words all i can do is look at old pictures of her and us and our old conversations i really do miss her i cant live without her i cant see my life without her either i cant go on without her i need her
I too, want to die. There is nothing for me to live for anymore. I am just a failure in my life and it has been going down hill ever since. I don’t want to go out for dinner with friends like I used to, would prefer to be by myself. I am thinking of easy ways of killing myself. I don’t have anyone in my life, so there isn’t anyone that can stop me on doing this, it is just putting my mind to do it. I won’t go and see my doctor, cos what is the point of that. I told him once that I wanted to kill myself and he gave me a paper to fill out, and said that there is still hope for me. Yeah right. I refuse to take my high blood pressure pills, cos what is the point of that. I haven’t been eating right, and when I do eat something, it is usually junk food. I found out that an ex got married, but the dumb thing of it all, is that we were never divorced, so this makes it really sickening. So, I don’t know how he did that without my signature. Course he is better off without me anyway, maybe he thinks that I am dead it would make life so much easier for him. I just can’t play this cat and mouse game, and after my place is cleaned and I will no longer be on this earth. My body will be going to science and they can do whatever they wish to after they are finished with it.
awe honey im here for you
i am really ill, because i have been depressed since i was taking away from my mom, at the age of 6. and i have been trying to harm my self, since i was 9. i am 14. and on the average i probably try to kill myself, is once or twice a month. and i am depressed mostly every day. reply if you relate.
im only thirteen in care i feel worthless everyday im tired of living scared of dying fuck……
I’m sorry for how long it took for a reply from someone, this is the first time I clicked on this site…with that, I truly hope you’re ok and still here sweetie. I’m going to be turning 30 next month and I was in that type of place before. I still get episodes (That’s what I like to call them) of depression. I have had severe depression since I was 12. And it’s hard when you can remember times that you were happy and not feeling this bad, even if it’s only a memory of a picture you were smiling in or even just a smile..that’s ok, it’s ok to remember as much or as little as you can. And this dark place you get sucked into creeps in and takes over and you feel like you’re going crazy and get frustrated and sad and depressed and beat yourself up non- stop with thoughts that you’re not good enough, you’re a loser, you’re not loved, you’re not wanted, you’re not pretty, you’re worthless, etc… It’s so insanely hard to feel anything aside from this terrible depressed state of being. And even as loud and violent as those thoughts can get, there are still moments in between that are either happy or at least less crappy feeling than others, and that’s just enough to have hope to still want to live, but to live happily and in peace and be able to love yourself again (or for once), and that’s when you look up ways to cope and not be depressed and be confident and not so sensitive. And that’s when you start to work in some inspirational or motivational quotes on how to be happy, how to be confident, how to love yourself, etc…and you can start keeping a journal or even journalS…every time you feel upset, depressed, write about it, draw about it, you can do an art journal, a normal writing journal, a smash book, scrapbook, whatever you feel and whatever method helps you somehow document it, you can finally get those feelings all out and the more you do, the less space those things and that pain can occupy in you. And yes, it IS possible to be happy again, or for the first time even. It’s not going to be a fix-all overnight, but doesn’t mean it will take forever either. But I believe that the more you got those feelings out, the faster you’ll begin having hope again and feeling happiness. You can also look up fun or, better yet, funNY stuff on Pinterest…think of your favorite animal and look up funny memes with that animal or cutest (your favorite animal) ever, etc…and keep the positivity flowing…and don’t worry if you get down or even depressed after that, it doesn’t have to last or stay, but it’s ok to not feel happy 24/7/365..thats not normal or healthy for anyone. Just because others look happy a lot…doesnt mean they don’t have problems, that might just be the audience that makes them feel happy, so they gravitate to what makes them feel good. But they still get upset, some even depressed, there are some people who get depression only during the winter, typically the winter, and that’s seasonal depression. Not everyone is as fortunate as us that have the really shitty version…but here’s a little metaphor that I heard that made me feel like that may be the key (I’ve been having an extremely difficult time trying to find an effective method myself..but finally got something working) I’m going to paraphrase his words, and basically think of the ocean, the ocean knows it’s the ocean, and in the ocean you see waves, the ocean doesn’t think it’s a wave, it knows it’s an ocean, a wave is minor and it passes…well, our thoughts are like the waves and we ourselves are the ocean, and those negative thoughts, just as the waves, can also pass and can be made minor if you practice strengthening your mind and gain control again. If you want to see the real deal with that, youtube search Prince I’m not depressed (I think that’s what it’s called…im sure it’ll find the right one anyway…i enjoy his videos and maybe he’ll make you smile, happened for me and I was past the point of feeling I’d return…and was balling my eyes out for a few hours, and his videos eased my pain at that time enough to hear his messages and try out his way, and I hope you too can have a great experience from this as well. If you don’t like him, it’s ok, find someone you do or pick someone you idolize, and maybe they can inspire you…i happen to admire Sarah Jessica Parker, I think she’s so sweet, and beautiful, and kind and really does care about people and is humble and fierce (in the best way), and I really want to hold myself as she does. I want to be like that and be happy with myself and just true and grateful. I know I can be that because I did feel it once before…and that gives hope to knowing i can be that way again…so I look at what she does, how she does and try to remind myself to follow her lead and be like that. That’s based off another quote I love, act like the person that you admire. (Pretend at first until it becomes natural)..compliment yourself each day in the mirror in the morning to start your day on a positive note…its going to feel dumb, weird, crazy, pointless, etc…but just try to do it once a day for 30 days…by the end of the 30 days, you should feel better and believe the good you’ve been telling yourself.
I hope something I’ve mentioned can help you or anyone that may read this. I truly feel and care and pray for everyone dealing with this dreadful illness and the symptoms and pain associated with it. And I pray for relief for you. You are loved, you are better than this, and you are meant for something big, not this feeling, don’t give up, please, and you can beat this and overcome the negativity. YOU DESERVE THE SAME CHANCE YOU WOULD GIVE SOMEONE ELSE AND YOU DESERVE THE SAME LOVE YOU’D GIVE TO SOMEONE OR A PET THAT YOU LOVE, TO GIVE YOURSELF.
I lost a child a few years ago. Also a niece and cousins. I am constantly contemplating suicide, and have on numerous occasions. In the past I have tried killing myself several times. I realise I can’t do that to my daughter. I feel worthless, empty and deserve to be punished. Being racked with guil and extreme sadness everyday. I know no one can help, because I have tried everything.
i know how you feel and im only thirteen
i live in care and i take meds for deppression and i self harm and try to od im tired of living and scared of dying i always feel worthless
everybody keeps on leaving me they promise to always be there for me and when i turn my back they vanished……
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I feel the same way you guys are. I’m done, too tired of struggling, i am from spain, been on meds for more than 18 years, I’m 38 now, it also true that i am not being lucky with getting a jobs etc so makes it worse, self esteeem low, i guess God knows what his plans are for me, if it was not for my faith i’d be dead or God knows how.
I’ll pray for y’all, we are not alone
I’m 33 unhappily married with 5 kids and my husband stopped caring about me a long time ago…. My dad died two years ago and I haven’t been the same since… I have lost all desire to live and feel completely insignificant. I took my life last year but they brought me back to life…..WHY… I just want to disappear.. I have struggle with substance abuse and depression for as long as I can remember. But it is at its worst right now… I have not eaten or had fluids hoping maybe I just won’t wake up because I don’t want anyone to save me this time…. How does it get to this point were my own kids no longer put a smile on my face and that I’m hungry but my heart hurts more than my stomach…. I just dont care anymore and am tired of not feeling loved and always ruining other peoples lives….. Everyone would be so much happier with me not around …. Dad I just want to see you again.. I miss u so much and loosing you has been so hard… I just want to be with u in heaven… U are my hero… And u were the only person that not only loved me but showed me how much I meant to you…. Why did u have to leave me alone is this world with no one…. I can’t do it anymore… I give up… I love u dad and we will be together again soon….
Ashley you have to realize that if your dad was suffering like my friend Terry was, the day after he went back to hospital I went to see him I spent 6 hours with him. I did not recognize him as I was looking at the face of death, so accepting this and being ready for what was going to happen made it easy for me. In short he was ready to go, if that was god calling him Ashley he was ready to go. Just like Terry, he did not leave me alone my instinct told me he was ready to go. So in the early hours of Sunday morning on the 6th on august I was called to his hospital bed, barely alive i said my good byes to him his eyes did meet mine he knew i was there he was waiting, there was tears as well from his eyes then he fell asleep.He has not left you alone, all thats happened is he has been relieved from his suffering. Which all gets us in some form or other, he has not done this deliberate. Can I say to you I want to see Terry again, I want him to give me that big bear hug greet when I walk through his door. Why not hang up a favorite picture in your bedroom, I have one of Terry in my room. What I do Is turn to the picture and say what your plans are it helps it takes the pain in the heart away. OH AND IT WOULDNT HARM TO SAY HEY KIDS COME GIVE MOM A HUG SOUNDS LIKE YOU NEED ONE
On the 6th of September 2017 I lost my only best friend and soul mate, after 31years. And I feel as if a part of my brain has been ripped out of me, a deep dark sadness has come over me and and I am drownd in depression. Before he passed on I had the bad news of Epilepsy thrust on me, so I am dealing with that. I have just fought off rectal cancer but thats left me with side effects, of thrombosis and water retention in both legs. But I am still alive but its the pain of walking and the meds for all the conditions I have now, mainly the pains in both feet when I walk. But loosing a good friend like him has broke my heart, he is badly missed like the father figure that did a much better job of bringing me up to be the better man than my so call dad did. I am 54 my friend was 78 when he passed away. My own depression is quite bad, I dont want to do nothing, go any where, see any one, handle any of his unfinished stuff but this has to be done with a heavy heart. my own doctor sees me on a regular basis
Its an interesting and truthful fact that yesterday 27/09/2017 I saw my own doctor as I was troubled with pain around my heart area, he sounded out my chest and checked my b p all was ok. In his words all yours suffering from is a “broken heart” please for your own sake take care, get some bereavement counseling and talk this out of your system. As what your going through can or could lead to heart attack. Again after well over a month my emotions have got the better of me, and I have broke down and cried again over going to see him in hospital for the last time, to say my last good bye to him his spirit was still there when i was looking in his eyes, his eyes did look to my eyes ever so slightly, I saw a tear well up in his right eye. eventually he closed his eyes and and left to go to gods side. my dad was waiting for me to come back before he went off to god side, That was comfort for me but oh my, the aftermath and clear up now and emotional strain is telling on me now. He was cremated 6th of August this Year, things right now are difficult
I’m totally depressed that I feel like killing myself is the best option for me… I’m very slim and I’ve tried it all to add weight.. doesn’t work… would have been better if I had loved ones around me but they make me feel even worst about myself that I’m at the point of killing myself.. they call me thin,they call me broom.. they make me see myself like I shouldn’t be living. I can’t even love myself for who I am.
they call me all the kind of names I don’t expect that I don’t feel good about myself at all.they call me all I don’t even from an outsider… I’m. frustrated… I’m writing in tears cos I’m totally pained… I just need someone to d
tale to.
Obsession with death. Emptiness. The loneliness and self-hatred that is all consuming. No hope nor future. And a deep desire for the pain to end by not waking up. It’s all there for me too as well as other mental torture and all because I have no friends and fear to have any because I am weird and seen as ugly. I want to hide but I want that invite to the party. The depression is actually physically painful. The psychological torture is never-ending. Rejected by everyone, even my own family. There is no one, just my self and my thoughts.
I wish everyone here all the strength in the world and remember tomorrow is the start to the rest of your life. Don’t waste it like I did.
I will just suggest a little something, maybe you have heard of this book, the catholic guide to depression, it’s not in Spain yet, from what I’ve been told is really good.
Cheer up y’all
Carlos, that is the absolute worst thing to say to a depressive and shows just how ignorant you are when it comes to clinical depression or in my case, MDD. There is no “book”, catholic or otherwise, that can “guide” you out of depression. And you may not have meant to sound condescending with your closing, “Cheer up y’all”, but you sure did come across that way. A word of advice, those types of comments don’t help and can actually push a depressive over the edge.
Depression isn’t something someone can just shake off, get over, cheer up, just deal with, and on and on and on. It is life altering and there is no option to pull yourself up by your bootstraps. I hope you never learn what depression really is because it is a lonely road filled with despair and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.
Right-said Jen.
I called the suicide hotline a few days ago and they told me that they cant help im so tierd my body hurts im just done
My honest opinion is that those hotlines suck at least half the time. Subreddits dealing with suicide often forbid comments offering them as suggestions.
I want to die 😞,, I can’t take anymore
you are not alone, my friend, i wanna die too.
Depression can kill you? Why would you think that anyone suffering with depression would think that that was a bad thing? Being alive is hell.
I just want to die. I’ve been severely depressed for 5.5 years following graduating college. I’m all alone. My hormones cause mood swings that are intolerable. I hate my job, hate that I didn’t live up to my expectations of myself. I hate that I only seem to attract crazy men so I am single. I am 30 and single and have no children. I want children. I finally have got to a point over the last 1.5 years that when I start contemplating suicide I want to hurry and buy a gun. I want to right now. It’s never going to get better. I’m tired of holding on for my family. I love them so much but no one understands what it’s like to hold on to life when you just want to die.
My husband is depressed. It has been like this for the past six months. I can’t stand it any more. I am a horrible wife because I yell at him, insult him, shout him to shut the *** up. I scream to him 90% of the times I talk to him. Horrible insults until he is beaten on bed. That is the only way I have found to shut him up. In any other moment, he is saying so many negative stuff from 4 AM to 11 PM every single day, that I think I want to kill myself only to be able to not to hear him any more. The health care service in this country (USA) sucks so much, that they gave him an appointment with some nurse practitioner in about a month. Another moth of pain and suffering and being the worst wife ever. I hate my life and I hate depression, and if I had it in front of me for at least one minute, I would kick it, punch it, kill it.
Wow. I hope your husband has someone who gets him away from you.
Living with depression is a horrific experience. Living with bipolar disorder is a horrific experience. Depression is just one of the sysmptoms.
I don’t know if I have depression or not but for every single one of the 9 symptoms I answered yes to them and I don’t know if I’m just overreacting over something others consider small and I try to put on a poker face around others. I don’t want to tell anyone until I know and I don’t know how to say anything, can I have advice? its been a little over 2 weeks since I’ve noticed but something like this did happen over a year ago and I don’t know if I’m overreacting.
I don’t want to get help for my depression, I want it to kill me so I don’t have to! I want out of this sh_tty world with it’s more an more sh_tty people! At 68 yrs. old I’ve had enough of living a losing existence of nothing but loss and no joy in life. I can’t get old enough fast enough to have death do it’s thing! I have no desire to kill myself or others. ( although there are some that have interfered with my life that I wished I could have! ) So you see, I want no help to help my depression, I want it to kill me, as soon as possible! That’s what I’m looking for, being alive in a life of all misery and he’ll is nothing to live for. Sorrh, but your not going to change my mind!
Although imperfections on unique Depression glass is regular, extra or
blatant discrepancies are a dead giveaway.
I started asking God to let me die in the early 1980’s. I hated myself so much back then. I finally got help from a Psychologist around 2010 and after weekly sessions for 3-1/2 years, I don’t hate myself. I go to bed every night now not caring if I wake up, but the physical pain of despondence is very infrequent nowadays. I take meds to stabilize my moods, but still believe that every day I wake up is God’s punishment for all my sins.